A little while ago, I was speaking to someone who was having huge problems trying to figure out whether to go for this new job they’d just been offered. On the one hand, the job was better money and much more along the career lines that my friend had in mind. On the other, it was in a completely different city, which meant that either she’d have a really long commute to work every day, or that she’d have to move locations – neither of which she were very keen to do.
But the money was great! Which meant that my friend was agonizing over the decision, and was feeling very confused, anxious and stressed-out about making the decision. Everyone she spoke to had a different take on the situation, and as each new opinion landed on her, she was finding it harder and harder to work out what was the right decision to take.
Life is full of these sorts of pivotal choices, and knowing how to make the right decision is a key part of being able to move forward with confidence, and without getting crippled by anxiety or worry about ‘choosing wrong’.
The trouble is, an awful lot of people simply don’t know how to make the right decisions, which can often lead to them feeling completely overwhelmed and panicked. In turn, that can very easily morph into a situation where the person feels perpetually trapped, stuck and stagnating – unhappy with their current situation and life circumstances, but apparently lacking the ability to make the right strategic decisions they need to move forward.
Luckily, the ability to make the right decisions isn’t something you’re born with; it’s something that you can easily learn. I sat down with my friend, and we proceeded to do two things: first, we got God involved in the process, and my friend asked for some guidance from Above that she should be able to read the runes correctly and figure out what was really going to be the best option for her.
Next, we did a mind-map.
If you’ve never done a mind-map before, it’s a deceptively easy-to-learn but profoundly effective tool that enables people to tap into their subconscious thought processes, to see what they really think about the choices they’re being presented with, or the situations they find themselves in.
My friend mind-mapped her two choices, and by the end of the hour long process, what clearly emerged was that she should actually stay in her old job, at least for now. She was clearly stunned, as she’d always believed that the prospect of earning more money and having more of a career-friendly position would trump any other consideration.
But after we’d mind-mapped what both options actually entailed, in real time, she was able to see that a lot of the extra money would go in the additional travel or relocation costs – and she’d still be stick with the 4 hour round-trip commute.
By the time we were done, the confusing decision had become a no-brainer, and my friend was able to turn down the job offer with complete equanimity and peace of mind, because she had 100% clarity that she was doing the right thing.
In the meantime, what also came out from the mind map was that while she ideally would like to be earning more money, actually having a job she really enjoyed, in her present location, was by far the most important factor for her quality of life.
In just one short hour, we’d been able to tackle and address all the little niggles she was having about her job; create a checklist of priorities to measure any future job offers against; and help her to make reasoned decision about whether to quit and move, or not.
That is the power of being able to make the right decisions.
And that’s something that you can learn, too.
For starters, you can check out my book ‘The Happy Workshop’, which has lots of exercises and guidance on how to figure out what you really want out of life. But if you’re looking for something more tailored and in-depth, then stay tuned for the next post, when I’ll tell you about a new online course I’ve put together that will help you make the right decision, every single time.