- Mind and Emotions
All three of these elements affect, and are affected by, the other.
If a person's body isn't functioning properly, this can have a number of affects on their mind, emotions and soul - and vice versa.
(See this article, where it talks about how serious injuries to the front of the head, aka the frontal lobe, often caused victims to develop negative emotional tendencies and responses that are very similar to those identified in Anti-Social Behaviour Disorder, and violent and criminal behaviour.)
The Free 'Talk to God and Fix Your Health' sets all this stuff out in detail, but in a nutshell, the following things will ALL affect a person's physical and mental health, and sense of wellbeing and happiness:
1) Having a strong connection to God (see HERE for what that means in practise)
2) The three foundations of emotional health need to be strong and balanced.
The three foundations are:
- Healthy compassion
- Sensible Accountability
- Appropriate Kindness
(See this article for more details: 3 foundations of emotional health)
3) That the body's energy, and particularly the 14 main energy meridians, are healthy and strong.
Again, you'll find a lot more information elsewhere on the JEMI site, and the following free guides are good places to start understanding the links between body, mind and soul:
Basic Guide to Strengthening Your Meridian Energy
What Emotions are Related to Which Energy Meridian
And another good site that's packed full of 'Energy Medicine' resources is www.innersource.org, the site of author Donna Eden.
How does BDP fit into this paradigm?
It would take a whole book to really do this topic justice (and guess what, I'm working on one at the moment…) but to try to sum it up in an incredibly over-simplified way, we can say this:
1) Why belief in God / nourishing the soul helps with BPD
One of the things that characterise people diagnosed with BPD (and probably a few billion other people who haven't been diagnosed with anything, much) is a profound, overwhelming sense of loneliness and emptiness.
Back in the old days when believing in God was still somewhat acceptable, this was commonly referred to as 'existential angst'. People didn't know what the meaning of life was, what they were doing on the planet in the first place, why apparently 'bad' things happened to apparently 'good' people, why they have to suffer so much, and so acutely.
Plain, old-fashioned ideas that God exists, that people are first and foremost souls, not just bodies, and that we're all down here on a spiritual journey, and that everything that happens to us is somehow meaningful and for our higher good are the key to defusing these issues at their spiritual source.
And remember, BPD people are highly sensitive, so they naturally feel these questions, and the suffering, and the 'lack' in the world more acutely and deeply than other people, even when they've been raised in emotionally healthy, validating and warm environments.
When they haven't - and most of the people who have BPD haven't, as discussed above - then they've also experienced an enormous amount of suffering, pain and heartache in their own lives.
Believing in God enables you to cope with your suffering without getting smashed to pieces, for a few reasons:
- You have someone to turn to, to share your pain with who won't find you 'too intense', clingy, deep or emotionally draining (BPD people: talk to God every single day about what's hurting you and upsetting you! More on this below.)
- You have a spiritual framework to help you understand your suffering better. If you feel that everything you're going through is 'random' and purposeless, you'll sink into a black pit of despair and lose your will to live (which is why as much as 75% of BDP people try to kill themselves, at least once.) If you can believe that your suffering has purpose, is part of what's required to 'fix' your soul, and is part of a much bigger plan for you and your life - you'll have more strength, resilience and ability to acknowledge, cope with, and eventually overcome your difficulties.
- If you believe that God's behind your difficulties, you also believe that He can stop all the 'craziness' in your life. If you don't, you'll feel that the difficulties, problems and issues will never end, and that you're powerless to do anything about it, which can make you feel even more desperate, panic stricken and overwhelmed. (As a side note, as well as feeling things more strongly, and reacting more extremely, BDP people also tend to have more than their fair share of crises and external 'problems' to deal with, which compounds the problem.)
2) Why working on the 3 foundations of emotional health can help BPD
It's all about BALANCE.
People with BPD need a lot of help to figure out what are appropriate, healthy emotional responses, and what aren't.
Yes, compassion is generally a good thing, but unlimited compassion that leads to you being treated like a doormat and being sucked dry is clearly not going to be very helpful.
The 3 foundations of emotional health that are set out in 'Talk to God and Fix Your Health' and not faddy ideas or pop-psychology; they're based on the timeless wisdom contained in the Torah, that's been proven as a blue-print for healthy humanity for more than 3 millenia.
They aren't going to change any time soon, and they WORK to help people feel more emotionally stable and grounded, and to have clarity about what a healthy emotional response actually should be, in any given situation.
3) Why bodywork / Energy Medicine / Energy Psychology stuff can help BPD
The scientific view brought above stated that the amydala, or 'fear hub' in the brain is overly-sensitive in people with BPD, while the frontal lobe is lacking the mechanism it needs to rein-in extreme emotional reactions.
Here's the good news: there are energetic techniques that can start to deal with this issue fast and effectively, including energy medicine techniques like holding the neurovasculars, and energy psychology techniques like Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT, or tapping) and the Tapas Acupressure Technique (TAT)
See here for the official page for EFT and how to do it.
See here for the official TAT page, and here for the free JEMI guide to doing TAT.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a big issue for people with BPD. As they feel so strongly and so deeply, it's VERY easy for them to be traumatised repeatedly, and to continue to hold that trauma physically, and to keep 'replaying' it at a subconscious level.
(I should say here that this can happen even when BPD people are raised in 'safe' home environments, which the vast majority of them are not. So they have trauma on top of trauma to try to deal with.)
Guess what happens when you're repeatedly traumatised and stressed-out? Yup, you're amygdala fires-up, sets off your body's stress response, you go into fight-flight-or-freeze, and 90% of the blood drains away from your frontal lobe, where you do your mature, adult processing and thinking.
Remember, BDP have a natural 'weakness' in this area in the first place, that trauma and stress only exacerbate.
If you go HERE, you'll find a video showing you the amazing results that tapping achieved with Vets suffering from PTSD as a result of their wartime experience.
What years of therapy and counselling couldn't shift, EFT managed in a couple of hours.
That's why approaching Borderline Personality Disorder just from the 'mind' perspective simply doesn't make sense. At least half the problem is energetic; start working on it there and the involuntary emotional reactions that characterise BPD can be defused in a very short amount of time, often providing instant relief.
Then, the BPD person can get on with the real work, of learning how to balance their emotions, and connecting all their experiences, depth, sensitivity and inner 'emptiness' back to God.