We’re all unique creations, and we all have our own unique path to travel down, and calling in life.
One of the consequences of this is that our emotional make-up, and mental abilities and capabilities vary considerably, from one person to the next.
That’s why one person will struggle to overcome their anger, while another person never gets ruffled. Or, why one person has to spend years fighting their way out of depression, while someone else is in a permanently sunny mood.
Even so, despite all these normal, natural and healthy variations, there are still a few standard things you can check against, to get a snap-shot of your current state of emotional health. The following 15 things are are a short-cut ‘emotional health’ checklist. The more you can tick, the more emotionally healthy you probably are.
But don’t worry if you can’t tick a lot of these! Self-compassion, patience and lots of prayer can and does work wonders for emotional health. Pick one to work on, start talking to God about getting it sorted out, and just watch how things start to improve.
The 15 habits of emotionally-healthy people
Emotionally-healthy people normally:
- Find it easy to forgive.
- Don’t think they’re perfect
- Don’t justify or excuse their anger
- Get on with others – they have long-lasting, mutually-respectful, balanced friendships
- Can put themselves in the other person’s shoes
- Are happy to help others out, but can also say ‘no’ when they need to
- Aren’t control freaks
- Are flexible
- Can bounce back from difficulties and disappointments
- Can ‘reframe’ experiences and thoughts in a more useful, positive way
- See the funny side of life and have a good sense of humour
- Don’t expect other people to solve their problems
- Are grateful
- Know they aren’t running the world