In the last post, we started to set out the broad idea that reconnecting people to their emotions by strengthening their spleen meridian is a key energetic approach to tackling personality disorders.
So now, let's find out how you actually do that!
Let's remind ourselves of what takes Spleen energy out, and then most of the solutions will automatically fall into place without a lot more explanation.
To strengthen spleen, the first thing to do is avoid all the stuff that's weakening it. (NB: These are lonnnngggg explanations, so I'm splitting them into a number of different posts.)
1) Trauma - In the secular world, the prevailing theory is that personality disorders are caused by some sort of serious traumatic experience, or experiences, in early childhood. They're right - at least partially - but the trauma doesn't have to be mental and emotional. It could also be physical (ie, a difficult birth, or a serious illness), or spiritual (ie, connected to previous lives and experiences that haven't yet been 'fixed' at the soul level. The Holocaust is a prime example of a spiritual trauma still requiring rectification, on some level.).
What this means, practically, is that the best parents in the world could still end up with a personality disordered child, through no fault of their own. I'll come back to this topic in a separate post, but the traumatic somatic memory / PTSD has to be released, energetically, from the physical location in the body, and the 'traumatic' connection in the primitive brain also has to be rewired, energetically.
2) Junk Food - Fast food and junk food is saturated with chemicals and nerve-destroying poisons like MSG. The meridian responsible for metabolising food is - Spleen! When your spleen is labouring away, trying to dispose of all the nasty stuff contained in your bottle of cola, it gets over-worked, and weak. Healthy, easy-to-digest food gives Spleen a break, and frees up more energy to deal with things like processing negative emotions in a healthy way..
3) Chemicals and environmental pollutants - Soaps, shampoos, toothpaste, washing powder - they all contain chemicals that really can and do weaken human beings by overloading our systems with toxic materials that are surplus to requirement, and need to be processed and removed. A few meridians are involved in this process, especially kidney, liver and our old friend, spleen.
Again, it's a post for another time, but when liver meridian is overwhelmed, people start beating themselves up and fundamentally hating themselves (another key trait of personality disordered people, especially narcissists). When kidney meridian is weak, then fear is the order of the day - and one of the big reasons why people with Cluster B personality disorders always try to brazen things out is because deep down, they fear being exposed as anything less than 100% perfect and wonderful.
(Check out the JEMI Tool that let's you link specific meridians to specific negative emotions by clicking HERE.)
That fear is visceral, debilitating and cuts to the core of 'Cluster B' people. They will do anything they can to avoid it, including lying, indulging in infamous 'narcissistic rage' attacks (where they go on the attack, viciously, in order to preserve their own super-fragile sense of perfect self), projecting their problems on to you, playing the victim - and a few other things besides.
Being on the receiving end of these manipulations, lies and rage fits is incredibly unpleasant (to put it mildly). But the underlying issue is FEAR. Anything that takes the narcissist's fear down, energetically, will help. (I'll discuss this in more detail when we get to the discussion about the Triple Warmer meridian.)
But anything you can do to minimise your exposure to chemicals and environmental pollutants will boost your spleen, kidney and liver meridians. It's also worth mentioning here that conventional medications are also very potent, powerful, toxic chemicals, albeit with a therapeutic affect.
Asthma puffs, steroid creams for eczema, even the humble aspirin - they all weaken the spleen, dump a huge toxic load into your system, and weaken your energy and immune system.