As with all matters of emotional, mental or physical health, a true solution has to work across the three levels of body, mind and soul.
Usually, I like to start from the 'top' down, the top being the spiritual root of all the problems. But with personality disorders, I'm going to reverse the normal order I do things, and start from the bottom, up, with the body.
Because the body (together with a lot of prayer) is really what holds the key to unlocking the problem of personality disorders.
Why 'Talk Therapy' Doesn't Work for Cluster 'B' Personality Disorders
As clinicians are the first to admit, 'talk therapy' just doesn't cut the mustard, when it comes to dealing with Cluster 'B' personality disorders, as a key component of change is that the person has to recognise that they're actually doing something wrong, to begin with.
That basic ingredient is missing in Cluster 'B' people. For reasons to be looked at in more detail later on, self-preservation is the highest priority for people with narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social behaviour personality disorders.
That deeply-entrenched attitude of self-preservation means that they simply can't 'hear' that they've done anything wrong; they can't see their role in causing difficulties and issues for the people around them; they can't accept that their behaviour (even the most blatantly nasty examples of it) is anything other than justified, rational, proper and correct.
You have to really experience it to believe it, but a Cluster B person simply can't recognise that they 'do wrong', according to the most basic, objective definitions of wrong-doing. That means they can't own up to bad behaviour, apologise for it, or do the necessary work required to prevent it from happening again.
Their overwhelming focus on self-preservation simply won't let them.
In talk therapy settings, Cluster B people will either blatantly refuse to address their issues and problems, or blame them on someone, or something else. Their gift for justifying their bad behaviour borders on something almost supernatural, and again has to be experienced to really be believed.
So where does this leave us?
To put it simply, if we can't get in through the door to solve the issue of personality disorders, we have to come in through the window, and the window in question is to tackle the problem at the energetic level, in the body.
But first, we need to really understand what we're dealing with.
Spleen Meridian holds the key to tackling personality disorders
Energetically, the energy meridian that holds the key to tackling personality disorders is spleen. Here's why:
As I mentioned in the last post, Traditional Chinese Medicine, states that the spleen meridian is the main 'energy of compassion' in the physical body. When the spleen meridian is weak or compromised in some way, PEOPLE DON'T HAVE THE ENERGETIC RAW MATERIAL THEY NEED IN ORDER TO FEEL HEALTHY, BALANCED COMPASSION OR EMPATHY.
(As a point of interest, Rebbe Nachman also writes extensively about the Spleen being the home of sadness and depression, and about compassion, but that's definitely a post for another time. To sum up: everything Rabbenu writes fits in with the hypothesis I'm setting out for you in these posts.)
Physically, if you strengthen spleen AND help people to overcome their 'locked in' trauma (which I'll BH write about in a separate post), then you strengthen the person's ability to feel again, and particularly, to feel empathy and compassion for other people.
Reconnecting people to their feelings is at the heart of 'solving' personality disorders.
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