OK, now we've seen how to apply mind-mapping easily to decluttering our brains and our homes from all the stuff we need to do, organise, clean, sort out.
You can use mind-maps any time you feel overwhelmed, and need to prioritise what to do first, or next. But you can also use mind-maps for more deeper things, and that's what we're going to try to do now.
The second mind-map we're going to do is called:
The Big Interview
At some point or other, you'll probably have to participate in some sort of big interview, or meeting. It could be for a new job, a new school, a blind date, a meeting with your kids' teacher, a talk with your bank manager to try and get a mortgage.
Many people find these types of interviews and meetings nerve-wracking, and they can bring up a lot of difficult emotions and surprising reactions. If you do a mind-map beforehand, it can help you to work through how you want the interview to go, and also help us you to identify any possible problems or big issues, and work on them, before you even get there.
This is an example of how a mind-map can help you to catch your deep-seated emotions, and deal with your subconscious responses, BEFORE they could trip you up on the day itself.
Exercise 2: The Big Interview Mind-map
Step 1: Take your sheet of paper, and put the words 'The Big Interview' (or big meeting) in the middle of the page, in a circle.
Step 2: Get God involved in whichever way you're comfortable with, as outlined in Step 2 of the first example, above.
Step 3: Now, you're going to free-associate. Without over-thinking (or thinking too much at all…) just write down whatever comes to mind, as you think about the upcoming interview or meeting. Even if it sounds a bit 'weird', unrelated, or 'out there', write it down. These seemingly extraneous pieces of information are often hiding some very deep issues and ideas.
Step 4: Now, take each of the categories you've written down around your 'hub', and give them a rank out of 10. 1 is 'not at all distressing, disturbing or stressful', and 10 is 'maximally disturbing, distressing or stressful'.
Do this spontaneously; your unconscious mind will write down your truthful response, if you get yourself out of the way enough to let it.
Step 5: Now, try to associate a feeling, or emotion with each think you've written down. For example, if you wrote down:
Don't know what to wear - what emotion or feeling is that actually conveying? Are you scared of looking stupid? Or doing something wrong? Or being judged harshly?
Go through each thing, and try to catch the underlying emotion, feeling or concern. Write it down next to it.
Step 6: Start to prioritise
Mind-maps are as much an art as a science, especially when dealing with emotional states. Now, you're looking for a theme or a priority that's weaving its way through your reaction to the big meeting or interview.
Is there a particular feeling or issue that keeps coming up, repeatedly, in different places? Like worried you'll look stupid? Or, scared you'll do something wrong and mess it up? Or, scared of 'failing', in some way?
If that turns into a dead end for you, try another tack: go back to your ranking system, and see which issue, or issues, carry the most weight for you. If anything's got a high number beside it, pay it some attention, and look to see what's the related emotion or underlying fear?
That's your priority.
Step 7: Draw your conclusions
Again, this mind-map example is just a guide, and shouldn't be taken as THE blueprint of how to do these types of mind-maps. Be guided by your intuition, and your soul.
In the next and final part of this guide to mind-mapping, we'll sum up what we've learnt about mind-maps, and how you can apply them to the different parts of your life.