The biggest thing stopping us from making the right decisions it that we usually don’t have the tools to figure out all the implications of the choices we’re making. Take choosing a career. Most people, many people, will tend to look at the money aspect first, and base most of their decision about what career to go for on the bottom line: who’s paying the most, and how much money am I going to make?
It’s only a few years’ or even decades later that they wake up one day, and realize that they actually hate the job they picked simply because it paid so well, and that while they have a lot of money in the bank they have no time to spend it (because they’re also working) and no-one to spend it with (because they couldn’t keep a relationship together in the 20 minutes a week they had when they weren’t at work or asleep).
That’s a great example of a ‘bad decision’, or a decision that went sour because only one aspect of the choice was being considered. Before you can be behind your decisions 100%, you first need to be able to bottom out everything it actually means to you, all the pros and cons of taking it.
To come back to the career example, before choosing to go into law, it’d be a great idea if the young undergrad could sit down and have a system that would help them figure out what’s really important to them, and what’s really going to make them happy in life.
A system that would pit the prospect of making a ton of money, on the one hand, against the other things that affect their quality of life, like free time, stress and fulfilling relationships. That way, as the undergrad’s true preferences were revealed and added up, it would probably create a very different picture of their ‘ideal career’, that would have profound implications for what they choose to study now, and also how the rest of their life is going to pan out.
Say they realized how much they like to play their guitar in the evenings. Say, they had a system that would let them quantify what being able to play some bass with their buddies actually meant to them, quality-of-life-wise, like: social interaction, creative expression, a great way to de-stress, and even, pure fun.
Once they identified the true value of being able to jam on a regular basis, then they could make a true choice about what would really be better for them: a job with long hours and lots of cash, or a job with less cash, but more free time.
By the way, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they would automatically pick the more laid-back career, but it would mean they could make an informed, realistic choice that would give them real peace of mind, and underline the importance of them still being able to play the guitar in the future.
So now, the question of questions: how do we actually make sort of life-affirming, right decisions that don’t leave us scrambling to cover our bases when things don’t go to plan?
The answer is deceptively simple, but incredibly effective once you know how, and I’ve created an easy-to-learn, practical system that can teach anyone how to do it.
It’s going to be available shortly for the introductory price of $75, and in the next post, I’ll introduce you to some of the practical ways it can literally transform your life.
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