Why is this important to know? Because unfortunately, there are a great number of mentally-ill behaviors going on which are passing for ‘normal’ these days, because they are so widespread.
Case in point: When I showed my husband some of the more emotionally-abusive comments I’d been getting, he just shrugged and told me: ‘That stuff happens all the time on the internet!”
Which is exactly why so many people are being psychology traumatized and negatively affected by their daily interactions online, or in other arenas of life. On a couple of occasions, I was literally shaking after reading some of this stuff because the toxic, unhealthy vibes were so strong and horrible to experience.
These types of behavior are incredibly damaging to all the people on the receiving end of them, because they have the following goals:
- They attempt to demonise the other person;
- They try to strip them of their basic humanity and their right to be heard and respected; and
- They want to make the other person feel terrible about themselves, and to be too scared to stand up for themselves, and to dare to ‘think differently’.
No matter what subject is being discussed, as soon as people fall away from the facts and start resorting to personal attacks of this nature, its emotional abuse.
And as we’ve learned, having regular dealings with emotionally abusive individuals is the prime cause of pretty much every mental illness you care to mention - because a person CANNOT be physically abusive and / or sexually abusive without also being emotionally abusive. It all goes together in one neat package.
(To be clear, I’m not saying that all emotional abusers also abuse in other ways, but I am saying that all abusers definitely also abuse emotionally, as well.)
So now, let’s start with a nice, clear definition of what emotional abuse actually is:
Emotional abuse happens when someone uses words or actions to control, frighten or isolate someone, or to take away their self-respect.
In the next post, I’m going to bring a bunch of specific behaviors and tactics that emotionally-abusive people typically engage in, so it’ll be easier for you to spot what’s going on next time you have the bad luck of having to deal with a nutjob.
I know it’s not pleasant digging into all this murky stuff, but it’s SO necessary, because the abusive people in our midst use their rage fits and personal attacks to keep others from asking questions, and from discovering the truth, whatever the ‘truth’ might be for them personally.
And as we know, God and truth are synonymous, so when you’re being kept away from ‘truth’ in some way, you’re also being kept away from connecting back to your true self, and your soul, and God, too.