One of the things I've seen happen a lot is what I call 'holistic therapy burn-out'. This can happen when someone religiously follows whatever special diet / special exercises / special practises / special routine is required from them as part of their holistic healing - and it doesn't work.
They don't end up getting pregnant; they don't manage to shift the weight; they don't get past their depression, or other chronic health issue.
When this happens, all too often the person experiencing holistic therapy burn-out gets salt rubbed into their wound when their practitioner of mentor starts blaming them for the failure.
That donut they ate three months ago stuffed everything up…they stopped getting up at 5am in the morning to meditate, and that's why it didn't work they way it should…they plain were just doing it wrong: they weren't taking the right stuff, or weren't taking enough of it, or were doing it wrong…
On and on the list goes.
And sometimes, it may even be true! But that doesn't disguise the fact that sometimes, people have the best of intentions, and they follow the dictates of their holistic therapy down to the last detail - and it doesn't always work.
Why is this?
Part of the reason holistic therapies don't always work applies to more conventional therapies and medications, too: God doesn't want them to. God sends you your problems and health issues as wake-up calls, to get a conversation going with Him.
When you cut God out of the picture, you often miss the point of why He made you ill, or stressed, or anxious in the first place, namely, that He's trying to get you to fix, change or improve something in your life, beliefs, habits or relationships.
Whether you're taking an aspirin or sniffing your pure lavender oil to make the headache go away, if you're not also asking the question: WHY do I have this headache?? - then you're really missing the point.
Normally, most holistic therapies usually do better on this score than conventional medicine, because they often acknowledge the mind-body connection to illness.
But there's a third factor to take into account, too, and that's the spiritual dimension. Physically, there could be absolutely no tangible reason why a woman can't get pregnant. Mentally and emotionally, she's mature, caring and loving - there's nothing obvious slowing it up there, either.
The woman in question has hours of acupuncture, watches her diet carefully, takes borage seed oil for years, even signs up for a few rounds of IVF, just to make sure she's doing everything she can to conceive - and still nothing.
Because God said so.
Why did God decide that?
That's between the individual themselves, and God. But for sure, it's not just a random, cruel act of 'fate': it's meaningful, it's deliberate, and it's designed to get a conversation going with the Almighty.
So where does this leave you, and all your efforts to get happy and healthy? Should you just throw up your hands in despair, and give up? Is it all predetermined anyway, then, and there's no point in trying anything else?
Not at all.
The answer is: continue to do your level best to achieve your mental and physical health goals. God wants you to eat healthily, and to exercise, and to work on your emotional and physical health anyway you can.
But He also wants to develop your spiritual side, too.
Most things in life come to teach you something profound: once you get the message, the problem usually goes away by itself. But not always. Sometimes, hard things come, and they stay, regardless of what you try to do to make them disappear.
Why? Because God said so. And when that happens, you really need God in your corner to get through the situation in one piece without cracking up or falling into despair.
It's not because you didn't stick to the diet, or the program, or forgot to 'omm' one day when you should have. It's just because God said so, and He's in charge of the world. And if your therapist or doctor doesn't know that, maybe go and find a different one who does, and who won't blame you when things don't go the way they hoped.