One of the things that critics of energy medicine, and proponents of Western medicine, like to argue VERY LOUDLY is that there’s no scientific basis for energy, or ‘electro-magnetic’ medicine.
This is wrong on a number of counts, but the first thing to say that cannot be overstressed is that every piece of interesting research stretching back 100 years that does appear to prove the electro-magnetic basis of biology and human health has been completely ignored by the medical establishment - at best.
At worst, because electro-magnetic medicine appears to be so fundamentally challenging to people raised with molecular biology as the last word, many of these more open-minded scientific researchers have also had their reputations soundly trashed, for coming up with facts and research that challenges the existing paradigm.
And yet, some brave souls continue to research the subject, (particularly in the former Soviet countries, were the bias against electro-medicine never took hold) and more and more of them are contributing some stunning information to the picture of how human health actually works.
One such researcher is Abraham Liboff, PhD, a physics professor at Oakland University. In a research paper called ‘Toward an Electromagnetic Paradigm for Biology and Medicine’, written in 2004, Liboff wrote that:
“Simply stated, it’s possible to view the living system as an electromagnetic entity, with the response of the system to a given electric or magnetic signal as an outcome expected on the basis of physical law. The familiar hormonal and enzymatic effects [that are the basis of Western medicine and molecular biology] still occur, but in this new approach these are merely associated changes in the system.”
(Don’t worry, I’ll sum everything up in plain English in a minute. But it’s important to see this stuff in situ.)
Liboff then continues:
“There are likely no more than four types of forces in the universe, one of which is the gravitational and another the electro-magnetic…the electro-magnetic force is the underlying reason for life…life is an interactive assembly of polymers.”
And then, he identifies what could be called the ‘electro-magnetic’ sequence of life:
“One merely has to consider the sequence of increasingly complex systems, each necessitated by the existence of the electromagnetic force, a sequence that leads directly to life: electrons, hadrons, atoms, molecules, polymers, living things.”
The last thing to take from Liboff, from now, is his statement that:
“The organization of organisms may be electrically mediated….The gestalt of the body’s physiological state - homeostasis, metabolic turnover, respiration, enzymatic rates - is no more than an intertwined system that can be represented by a single electro-magnetic field.”
There’s plenty more to say on this issue (and I’m planning to bring more of the hard science to share with you, here on the blog) - but you can sum up what Professor Liboff is telling us like this:
You can read more of Abraham Liboff’s research at Reseach Gate, HERE.
While there is always SO much more to say about the subject of personality disorders, both on what causes it (trauma…), what heals it (primarily, a strong connection to God and the more spiritual dimension to life), and the terrible pain and suffering it can cause others (leading to more trauma, mental illness and personality disorders…) this last word on the topic, for now, is the key to really ‘leaving the cult’ of narcissistic personality disorder once and for all.
So what is this magic formula for emancipation?
In a nutshell, cultivating the strong belief that: you are not a victim.
Now, I don’t write these words lightly. There’s a stage every ex ‘cult’ member goes through where it’s actually good and healthy and part of the healing process to recognize the wrongs that were done to you, and the emotionally-ill mind games you were trapped in, and all the guilt trips, and destructive criticisms and blame games you were made the scapegoat for.
You can’t leave the cult if you don’t acknowledge just how bad cult behavior, and cult thinking really actually is. If you try to short-cut this part of the process, you’ll end up excusing things you shouldn’t, and justifying all sorts of evil attitudes and cruel actions, and then as soon as you whitewash those things, you’ll inevitably carry on doing them yourself. That’s human nature.
So stage one is definitely to recognize just how bad things were around your NPD relatives (and others), and to acknowledge and validate your own, very real, pain and suffering.
And depending on how bad things were, and how badly your own life was messed up as a result, that stage can often take a pretty long time - even years - to properly process and digest.
But that angry, raging, furious place you have to pass through in order to leave the cult is NOT the place to stay, long-term.
Because here’s a little secret you should know about people with personality disorders and other mental illnesses: Every single one of them justifies their crazy, horrible, selfish and destructive behavior, and has a million excuses why it’s ‘OK’ for them to do it.
Every single mentally ill person out there feels like a victim - of life, of their parents, of circumstances, of horrible siblings, of racists, of anti-semites, of nasty neighbours, mean classmates, grasping employers, lazy colleagues, unreliable friends, the tax man, the other guy….
The list goes on and on.
And the way ‘victim think’ works is that as soon as your evil inclination has convinced you that you’re a victim, it’s a piece of cake to convince you that you DESERVE to treat others horribly, and to be treated specially, and not have to take anybody else into account in your mad rush to get what you need and want, because life owes you big for all the suffering you’ve already been through.
This state of mind is present in all mental illnesses, to one degree or another, but has pride of place in Narcissistic Personality Disorder-ed people. Every single narcissist out there, whether they admit it or not, feels like a victim, and that any ‘bad behaviour’ you could ever ascribe to them is only and ever in response to being victimized by others.
To put things another way, staying in a place of perpetual victimhood paves the way to developing full-blown mental illnesses like NPD, and that’s really not where you want to end up.
So how to resolve this feeling of being a perpetual victim? Again, I should state upfront this is a process, and often a long one. It’s not straightforward, it’s not linear, and there’s often a lot of going forward just to fall back again. That’s life, in all it’s imperfection. But it IS still possible to see some big changes and movements very quickly, by doing some or all of the following suggestions:
But I want to leave you with this: The main reason God put you through all this terrible, horrible stuff with your NPD relatives is because He wanted to give you a reason - a big, unmissable reason - to get back in touch with your soul, and with Him.
If your life hadn’t been so hard and challenging and painful up until now, maybe you’d live your time out in a completely superficial bubble of materiality. God doesn’t want that for you. He wants you to dig deep, and to start asking some hard questions about what life is really for, and why it’s so hard.
There’s really one solution to the problem of NPD people, and that’s get God involved in the process, ASAP. If you do that, sooner or later, the clouds will part, and you will find the way out to true happiness, acceptance and peace of mind.
So, you’ll recall that for the last few weeks, I’ve been experiencing quite a bit of inner stress, without knowing exactly why that’s occurring.
In this post, I set out some of the insights I got about why certain aches and pains were coming up, and what to do about them. But the aches and pains related to my head - which I felt was connected to the general craziness going on in the world - haven’t really improved so much.
After pondering on what was going on, and talking to God about what was going on over a number of different occasions, last week things started to move. I got some insight that they were related to anger, and anger is the gallbladder meridian, that runs all over the top of the head before going down the sides of the body to the fourth toe.
After sedating the gallbladder meridian a couple of days in a row, the tension in my head (and in my body generally) started to abate noticeably - and that’s when the dreams started up.
The last few days, I’ve been having some very traumatic and disturbing dreams. For two nights, I was dreaming about huge fires burning down cities. The next night, I had a dream about a massive earthquake. Just now, I had a dream that was kind of an up-to-date verion of a holocaust-era round-up of people.
I am waking up from these dreams completely terrified.
On the one hand, I know they’re just dreams. On the other, I can see that on some level, I have some immense fear of what’s to come going on. In the meantime, a lot of my physical symptoms are ameliorating, or morphing into more noticeable and normal symptoms of anxiety.
Instead of having a continues pain and pressure up the back of my neck and going into my head, now, I’m having stomach issues and I’m consciously feeling very nervous. This is actually progress, as the ‘issue’ is moving out of the deepest reaches of my subconscious, and more into my conscious mind where I can really start to work on it and acknowledge what I’m truly feeling.
Which brings me to the fear tap.
I’ve got into the habit of adding in an extra ‘energy exercise’ to my five minute morning routine, which I let God pick for me. (If this sounds a bit weird, it simply means that I open the book randomly and I ask God to help me land on the right energy exercise for me, today.)
Today I came up with the fear tap.
The fear tap takes two minutes to do, and it’s super easy. It’s benefits include:
Man, I need all of those at the moment!
Here’s how you do it:
On the back of your hand, locate the indentation between the ring and pinky fingers. Tap the area with 2-3 fingers with your other hand, for up to a minute. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth.
This is a standard part of the EFT tapping routine, btw, illustrated in the diagram above, but it can also be used alone when you just need a quick something to help your body calm down and your mind to stop feeling so anxious about ‘what will be’.
Something tells me, we could all be using it, this week.
If you've been following this website for a while, then you'll already know that there's a growing consensus among people who don't have vested interests in pushing the 'chemical imbalance' theory of mental illness that trauma is the MAIN underlying reason for pretty much any mental illness you care to mention.
Although the vested interests are still fighting to keep this information under wraps, more and more research is building up to prove the point, and you can find a lot of it in Bessel van Der Kolk's excellent book: The body keeps the score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma.
In that book, Van Der Kolk (who is a psychiatrist specialising in trauma) explains:
“I made a review of all the patients I had treated. Almost all had in some way been trapped or immobilized, unable to take action to stave off the inevitable. Their fight / flight response had been thwarted, and the result was either extreme agitation or collapse.”
In this post, I want to share some of 'headline' findings, so you can start to see for yourself how traumatic experiences cause mental health problems, and how healing the physiological response to trauma is the key to achieving good mental health.
Ready? Here we go!
STRESS HORMONES AND PTSD
A group of researchers including Steve Southwick and John Krystal and Yale, Arieh Shalev at Hadassah, Frank Putnam at NIMH, and Roger Pitman at Harvard found that traumatized people keep on secreting large amounts of stress hormones long after the actual danger has passed.
Meanwhile, researcher Rachel Yehuda at Mount Sinai found that people with PTSD have low levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Cortisol triggers the ‘all clear’ message that the danger has passed, and the stress response can be called off by the body. This message doesn’t get sent in people with PTSD.
When people have been traumatized, and have PTSD, it means that their fight / flight / freeze response is permanently switched on, and their stress hormones (particularly adrenaline) spike higher than normal to perceived threats, and either don’t return to normal baseline levels at all, or take a very long time to reduce back down to normal. This excess of stress hormones swirling around their bodies causes feelings of agitation and panic, and can lead to any number of mental and physical health issues, over the longer term, which usually form the basis of psychosis.
ADDICTED TO EXCITEMENT
For example, many traumatized people seek out experiences that non-traumatised people would find repellent, bizarre or unpleasant. PTSD people often complain about feeling empty or bored when their lives aren’t full of stress, danger or conflict, so they frequently engage in risk-taking and 'crazy' types of behaviour to fill that hole.
THE ROLE OF THE AMYGDALA
The amygdala (two almond-shaped clusters of cells on either side of the brain) determines whether something is a threat or not, but in a very crude at-a-glance way.
Van Der Kolk did a brain-scanning experiment with volunteers who had experienced trauma, to see which parts of the brain were aroused or shut down by traumatic experiences. Intense emotions activate the limbic system, and particularly the part of the limbic system known as the amygdala.
The amygdala warns of pending danger or threat, and activates the body’s stress response, or fight-or-flight response. Van Der Kolk’s study clearly showed that when traumatized people are presented with triggering images, sounds or thoughts related to their traumatic experiences, it sparks the amygdala off again – even if it’s years or decades after the event.
The amygdala acts as a ‘fear centre’ in the brain. When it’s activated, that sets off a progression of cascading stress hormones and nerve impulses that increases blood pressure, hastens the beating of the heart, and ups oxygen intake (the sympathetic nervous system is associated with the ‘in’ breath), ready for fight and flight.
Even when a person’s body and emotional brain register a threat, some people are so traumatized they simply go into denial, where the conscious mind goes on as though nothing has happened.
But the stress hormones still cascade through their bodies, the stress response is still primed by the emotional brain – just they don’t respond to it all, in any conscious way. Again, this is often a prime cause of physical and mental illnesses.
To quote Van Der Kolk again:
“Medications, drugs and alcohol can also temporarily dull or obliterate unbearable sensations and feelings. But the body continues to keep the score.”
Broca’s area is one of the speech centres of the brain (located in the left frontal lobe). When it isn’t functioning properly, or the blood supply is decreased or cut off to that area, you can’t express your thoughts and feelings as words.
In Van Der Kolk’s brain scanning experiments, the Broca area went ‘offline’ every time a trauma victim was experiencing a flashback. In his words:
“All trauma is preverbal.”
One of the defining hallmarks of trauma is that what you experienced can’t really be communicated to others, even many years’ after the event. While the body is thrown back into the physical aspects of the traumatic event or memory – the fear, rage and helplessness of being caught up in ‘inescapable shock’ – and you have an overwhelming urge to run away or punch someone, you still can’t describe why.
Again, this situation can easily cause people to feel like - and even act like - they're literally going mad.
LEFT BRAIN VS RIGHT BRAIN
The left brain is logical and rational – it remembers facts, statistics, timelines, other ‘organisational’ details. The right brain remembers sounds, physical sensations, smells and emotions. To quote Van Der Kolk:
“Deactivation of the left hemisphere has a direct impact on the capacity to organize experience into logical sequences, and translate shifting feelings and perceptions into words…Without sequencing, we can’t identify cause and effect, grasp the long-term effects of our actions, or create coherent plans for the future.”
Again, this behaviour is clearly underneath a whole bunch of serious mental issues, ranging from depression and anxiety, through to personality disorders like Narcissism, BPD and ASPD, right up to things like DID, and the more severe mental disorders.
When old trauma is triggered in the present, the right brain reacts as though the trauma is happening again RIGHT NOW! As the left brain is usually shut down or not working very well (as occurred in the original traumatic state) the traumatized person doesn’t register that they are reacting to something from the past. They feel angry, petrified, frozen, incandescent or ashamed – but they have no idea why. Which is when they start to look for scapegoats in the present – people and situations - to blame for how they’re feeling.
Trauma seriously interferes with self-awareness, because the right and left brains stop working together.
Again, this has a number of huge implications for a person's mental state and healthy mental and emotional functioning.
TO SUM UP:
There are a number of gentle, effective and holistic approaches that are being developed to tackle trauma, which include:
You can find some easy, self-administered techniques for calming down fight or flight by clicking here:
energy exercises to defuse the 'fight or flight' response
Lastly, the infographic at the top of the post shows how the 3 main parts of the brain work together, and how the rational brain (number 3 in the diagram) is responsible for most of our 'executive functioning and thinking'.
As mentioned above, when a person experiences severe trauma, their rational brain goes 'offline' - and that's probably what's causing the symptoms of psychosis / mental illness.
Remove the traumatic response, and the rational brain will 'reconnect' to the rest of the system, and the person will start to feel a whole lot happier and in control.
That, in a nutshell, is how you really cure mental illnesses of all stripes. And when this information starts to really get around a bit more, then it won't be much longer until the drug companies and the psychiatrists go out of business.
Energy Magazine is a great, free bimonthly publication that has a lot of useful articles about the latest innovations in energy medicine techniques and applications.
This month, it also has an article by yours truly, called 'Plugging back into the Source', which is recommended reading (see if you can guess what it's about by taking a look at the infographic...)
You can pick up your own copy by going here:
And taking a look at the latest copy for Jan/Feb 2016.
In keeping with the 3 pronged God-based holistic health approach that you’ll find on the JEMI website, and in my books like Talk to God and Fix Your Health, and Causes and Cures of Depression, any response to PTSD (and the depression, anxiety, BPD and DID issues it’s often causing) has to operate across all three levels of body, mind and soul, in order for it to permanently and effectively fix the root of the problem.
So, here’s my suggestions:
This one is pretty easy, as it’s the same advice for all issues, mental health or otherwise: start talking to God regularly about what’s troubling you, challenging you and hurting you, and ask for help.
Ask for the strength to deal with the problem at its root, the courage to do it, the clarity to know what’s really required, and the patience and self-acceptance to keep going, even when you feel overwhelmed, frustrated or completely exhausted and finished.
Trauma occurs when people feel threatened, that the world is not a safe place, and / or that their life is meaningless. A strong connection to God is the single best ‘cure’ I know of for resolving these fundamental feelings of futility, fear, anger and despair.
(If you want some help with this, take a look at the ‘How, what and why of talking to God’ pocket guide published by the Matronita Press. Click HERE to take a look.)
Mental and Emotional Level
The single most important thing you can do is to honestly identify who and what is triggering your stress. If it’s the Vietcong or ISIS that’s probably not so difficult. But if it’s a close family member (or even a few of them…), this could be the single most challenging part of your efforts to heal.
Remember, depression and anxiety (which are on the milder end of the PTSD scale) don’t just come out of nowhere. They are triggered, and the trigger in nearly all cases is spending too much time with nasty, uncaring people who make you feel worthless, dumb, and bad about yourself.
The following article can help you start to work out what’s going on:
7 types of negative people
And this article can help you start to put the appropriate boundaries up that you need to protect your mental health:
3 rules of healthy boundaries
(If you’re depressed, then the ‘Causes and Cures of Depression’ pocket guide also has a lot of additional advice and practical strategies. Click HERE for the link.)
You’ll also need to work on strengthening your three foundations of good emotional health, which are:
This article has more about that:
Three foundations of emotional health
And JEMI’s free Talk to God and Fix Your Health online course, modules 3-5, also has a lot of practical stuff and exercises specifically on this subject, to help you.
Another book that could really help you start to piece together what’s going on in your life and relationships, and why you’re reacting the way you are, is ‘Running on Empty’ by Jonice Webb, which does a great job of explaining the concept of Childhood Emotional Neglect, what causes it, what consequences it has, and some ideas for how to start healing from it.
If you want to go the more traditional route, then the following therapies have had some proven success with PTSD:
Energy psychology techniques like Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT, or tapping), Tapas Acupressure Technique, and other meridian-based therapies including NAEM etc are hugely successful with getting to grips with the underlying physiological reaction to stress that keeps a person trapped in trauma.
See the JEMI guide to doing TAT HERE.
And this is the link I showed you a few posts’ ago, showing how EFT defused the severe PTSD of army vets in just a few short sessions:
Other things to try are applied kinesiology, and / or if you want to work on the energy side yourself, then the main meridian to focus on is calming down the Triple Warmer, which directly governs the flight or fight response underlying PTSD (and its associated symptoms).
You can learn a lot more about working with your own meridians by taking a look at JEMI’s free guide to strengthening your basic meridians, HERE. (You have to sign up to access it, HERE, but it’s completely free.)
Questions? Comments? Let me have them, and I’ll do my best to come back to you, if I have something useful to add.
Below, I’ve cut and pasted the official symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) from the official PTSD scale, used by clinicians. You can see the full scale for yourself HERE.
But a word of caution: as we’ve been discussing, many mental health professionals are still unaware of the link between childhood physical and verbal abuse and PTSD, and that comes across loud and clear in the questions that are being used to assess trauma.
I’ll discuss this issue in more detail in the next post, BH, but it’s important to remember that:
PTSD doesn’t just happen to ex-soldiers, policemen or assault victims. It also happens, in spades, to many people who grew up in homes where they didn’t feel ‘safe’, and who were repeatedly scared out of their wits, threatened, criticized, neglected and verbally attacked by their care-givers – even if they weren’t physically hurt.
More on this in the next post. For now, here’s the official symptoms of PTSD:
PTSD Symptom Scale (PSS)
Foa, Riggs, Dancu, Rothbaum (1993) HCSATS 2/11
Below is a list of problems that people sometimes have after experiencing a traumatic event. Please rate on a scale from 0-3 how much or how often these following things have occurred to you in the last two weeks:
0 Not at all
1 Once per week or less/ a little bit/ one in a while
2 2 to 4 times per week/ somewhat/ half the time
3 3 to 5 or more times per week/ very much/ almost always
1. Having upsetting thought or images about the traumatic event that come into your head when you did not want them to
2. Having bad dreams or nightmares about the traumatic event
3. Reliving the traumatic event (acting as if it were happening again)
4. Feeling emotionally upset when you are reminded of the traumatic event
5. Experiencing physical reactions when reminded of the traumatic event (sweating,
increased heart rate)
6. Trying not to think or talk about the traumatic event
7. Trying to avoid activities or people that remind you of the traumatic event
8. Not being able to remember an important part of the traumatic event
9. Having much less interest or participating much less often in important activities
10. Feeling distant or cut off from the people around you
11. Feeling emotionally numb (unable to cry or have loving feelings)
12. Feeling as if your future hopes or plans will not come true
13. Having trouble falling or staying asleep
14. Feeling irritable or having fits of anger
15. Having trouble concentrating
16. Being overly alert
17. Being jumpy or easily startled
Please mark YES or NO if the problems above interfered with the following
1. Work Yes No
2. Household duties Yes No
3. Friendships Yes No
4. Fun/leisure activities Yes No
5. Schoolwork Yes No
6. Family relationships Yes No
7. Sex life Yes No
8. General life satisfaction Yes No
9. Overall functioning Yes No