Following on from his excellent article on the connection between family dynamics and mental health, Paris Williams wrote the second part, containing more of the 'theory' of his ideas, HERE.
It's also a good article, but I felt that the discussion about mental health was ignoring one very fundamental point. Read on to see my comment for yourself, and then let me know what you think (if you feel like it...) in the comment section below:
Hi Paris, thanks for these articles.
Part 1 was one of the best things I’ve ever read on the subject of what’s really causing mental health issues, and I’m sharing it around as much as I can. Thank you!
I just wanted to mention that I think God is the elephant in the room with the whole discussion of mental health. We’re rightly focusing on the fact that modern society has become such a breeding ground for bad character traits, fear, worry, anger, control issues, and all the other negative things that create the heady brew required for mental and emotional illness to thrive.
But a huge part of why society is becoming so rotten and ‘anti-social’ is because the focus has been placed on superficiality and materiality, instead of spiritual achievement, true purpose and striving.
I know God has been co-opted by many man-made religions with their own (materialistic) ends in mind, but that doesn’t mean that He doesn’t exist, or that the soul is not a fundamental part of the quest for human health and happiness at every level.
Ignoring God and the spiritual imperative that underlines the whole reason why we’re here in the first place, and why we have to suffer, and how we are meant to learn and grow from these experiences, means that any solution we arrive at is limited and partial, even with the best of intentions.
Anyway, wonderful articles, thanks again for putting them together, and pulling so much useful research into one place.
Dear alternative health practitioners,
Next month, on January 31st 2016, BH my new book setting out a God-based holistic health paradigm will be coming out.
It’s called: Talk to God and Fix Your Health: The Real Reasons Why We Get Sick, and How to Stay Healthy.
Now, why am I telling you this?!
Great question! In a nutshell, I need your help to get the book some attention on Amazon. There is a much greater chance of people noticing the book if it has 25+ reviews on its launch date of Jan 31st.
So here’s what I’m offering: In return for your short and honest review being posted up on Amazon on Jan 31st, I will send you a FREE PDF copy via email to read right now.
If you’re interested, please get in touch with me at: firstname.lastname@example.org
Why ‘Talk to God and Fix Your Health’ can help you, your practice and your clients:
>>> It sets out the God-based holistic health framework very clearly, so that your clients will start to realize that good health depends on all 3 levels of their body, mind and soul.
Now, how does that help you, as an alternative health practitioner?
The book is out Jan 31, 2016, BH.
The more people in the alternative health community who know that health requires a 3 pronged approach across body, mind and soul, the more people will seek out holistic health practitioners to help them figure out and fix the real, underlying problems, which is a win/win for everyone.
So if you’d like a FREE review copy, please get in touch and I’ll pop one in the email to you ASAP.
Thanks for your time, and I really hope to hear from you,
PS: Don’t forget, just email me at: email@example.com and I’ll send the FREE PDF copy of ‘Talk to God and Fix Your Health’ over to you straight away!
PPS: You can pre-order the book online at Amazon at this link:
PRE-ORDER TALK TO GOD ON AMAZON
In the wake of more scary headlines about people dying from influenza, I got a text message asking me what the official Breslev line was in regards to the flu vaccine.
I told them: there isn’t one. But then, I also told them two more things:
1) Generally, Rebbe Nachman was always dead set against doctors, and advised his followers to avoid the medical profession like the plague.
2) Rebbe Nachman also told his followers it was imperative to vaccinate their children against the smallpox, a treatment which had just been discovered.
So what does that mean for the flu vaccine specifically, and vaccines specifically?
It’s not for me to say, but I do want to flag a few interesting websites that recently came to my attention, so you can start to make you own decisions about vaccines, and whether the apparent benefit of vaccinating is worth the risks.
You can read more at the sites below:
One thing is clear from the whole debate about vaccines generally: what’s really going on is far from clear, and each person needs to research the issue thoroughly for themselves, and ask God for guidance about what’s the right thing to do.
God-willing, I’ll return to this subject again soon, but I hope these links will provide you with some valuable food for thought, and an alternative view that hopefully starts to balance the standard line that innoculations are only positive, definitely work, and are imperative for maintaining our children’s health. Sometimes, that’s true. But not always, and the risks involved with vaccinating are sometimes enormous.
Reclaim your health and happiness from the ‘experts’!
A little while ago, I was in the optician’s with my kid, waiting for an eye test. As I sat there, I couldn’t help overhearing a loud conversation the optician was having with another dad-and-son duo: the optician was recommending a particular brand of lenses for the son, and the father was refusing to OK the decision until he’d spoken to his pediatrician.
It’s a small example of the madness that’s overtaken so much of the world, that’s encouraging us to outsource so much of our own ideas, and insights, and knowledge for that of the ‘experts’. And no-where is this madness more pronounced, or more destructive, than in the areas of mental and physical health.
As a society, we’re being scared to death by a culture of ‘experts’ who are demanding that we medicate every little pain, and panic about every little health issue, and obsess over whether we’ve got every new mental disorder they like to churn out. They like to pretend that they’re doing all this to help us, to save us from ourselves, to keep us happy and healthy – and sometimes, that may even be true.
But what is certain 100% of the time is this: the more patients or clients an ‘expert’ has, the more money they will make, and the bigger their bank balance grows. The more they can convince you that you need them in order to take proper care of your health, or to stay on an emotional even keel, the more hooked you’ll get on the service they provide, and the more you’ll be willing to pay for it.
Think I’m exaggerating?
Let me tell you another story: Before I got into the whole God-based holistic health scene, I used to coach people with their personal goals. One time, I had a client who was a doctor, and who wanted to start making more money. Sure, she was selflessly trying to help humanity blah blah blah. Sure, she was only committed to her patients’ welfare (despite bitterly resenting anyone who tried to ask for advice or reassurance outside of office hours). But really? She felt she should be making a few thousand dollars more a month, and that she wasn’t being paid what she was worth.
She’d figured out that the best way to get more people into her office, and paying her fees, was to scare them about the myriad things that could be wrong with their health. Very few people are 100% healthy, 100% of the time, so my doctor client figured that if she could encourage people to come in for more testing, more of the time on the off-chance that something might be wrong she’d hit pay-dirt.
That was one of my first introductions to the selfish, money-grabbing, ‘hey, I’ve got a bit mortgage to pay!’ attitude underlying all too many ‘experts’ these days, and it shocked me to my core.
Overtime, I watched one person after another walk into their office with a minor health issue, and walk out again with a bunch of prescriptions that they now needed to fill FOREVER.
None of the people being scammed by this ‘expert’ had any idea that their health and welfare wasn’t uppermost in the doctor’s mind. Every single one of them believed that the advice they were being given to start anti-depressants, or get an asthma inhaler, or to start taking pills for their minor cholesterol problem was 100% altruistic and honest.
But you and I know better.
And the problem is even more pronounced in the area of mental health, where new diagnoses and ‘diseases’ are being manufactured at an almost laughable rate. Does it sound realistic to you that the psychiatric community has really discovered 294 ‘new’ mental illnesses since the end of World War II?
Or that they’ve managed to figure out the inner working of the human psyche so minutely that they can tell you exactly what chemicals go into creating a mood, or a reaction, or a feeling, and they can also package that ‘feeling’ up into a pill?
The psychiatric community is full of arguments, counter-claims, bad science and ego. If things are really so clear cut, then why is there not one unified therapy approach, one pill for depression, or one single test that can be done to ‘prove’ a chemical imbalance in the brain – for any of the almost 300 ‘diseases’ they’ve claimed to have discovered?
Why do the definitions of mental illness and mental disorders shift like sand in the proverbial desert, where old ‘diseases’ disappear overnight, only to have another three grow up, hydra-like in their place? The ‘experts’ are full of arguments and contradictions, even when they believe themselves to be acting in your best interests. And the success rates for most therapies are dismal, at best.
Years go by, fortunes are spent lying on the therapist’s couch, and progress, particularly for those people most in need of it, is usually pretty scant and temporary.
So what’s a person to do?
And how does JEMI (now Spiritual Self-Help) fit into the picture?
I started JEMI to help people take control of their health and wellness back from the ‘experts’. I realized that in order for the lay person to start believing in themselves again, and their own ability to heal and mend, even without any ‘expert’ intervention, they had to have some solid facts and some solid information about what was really making them sick, and what would really help them to heal.
So many of us have been fed a line from the ‘experts’ about how much we need them, and how we can’t live without them, and how they are the panacea to all of our problems. But the truth – as revealed in scientific studies about the enormous numbers of people who die from medical negligence and the side effects of taken medication as prescribed every year; or the number of people addicted to over-the-counter drugs; or the huge number of therapists who are themselves suffering from serious mental illnesses, despite claiming to be able to ‘cure’ these issues in their patients – speaks for itself.
I started JEMI to give all us non-experts out there the most powerful weapon in the world, when it comes to learning how to live happily and healthily: knowledge.
But knowledge, while it’s valuable, also needs to come wrapped in the proper perspective, and to be grounded in practical advice for how to actually apply it in real life, so these things are also key ingredients of my website and books.
I don’t just want to help you find out the real, God-based holistic health reasons that are making you sick; I also want to give you tried-and-tested practical advice about all the stuff you can do – easily, by yourself, and often for free – to get better again.
So that’s what JEMI / Spiritual Self-Help is about:
So now you know what’s making me and this website tick, let me ask you something:
How can I help you?
How can I help you, to reclaim your health, happiness and decision-making abilities from the ‘experts’? What can I do for you that will make your life better, in some way? Or that will give you the missing piece of your own particular healthcare puzzle?
What’s stressing you out the most? What health issues do you most worry about? What piece of information, or knowledge, or insight do you wish you had, but can’t quite seem to track down?
Whatever it is, please drop me a line at: firstname.lastname@example.org, and tell me what’s on your mind.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, and I’m looking forward to sharing more health-improving, happiness-boosting, life-transforming ideas and information with you again soon.
For once, I didn't write this!
It's a 3 part in-depth series on what's really causing all the emotional and mental health issues in the world, backed up with solid scientific research spanning more than 60 years'.
It's highly recommended (although I'm guessing the spiritual part of the equation will still be mostly missing....) and you can read the first part of it HERE, over on the Mad in America website.
So, with a couple more book launches imminent, BH, with ‘Talk to God and Fix Your Health’ officially out Jan 31, 2016 (click the link to pre-order) and ‘How your emotions are making you sick’ out Feb 15, 2016 (click the link to pre-order), the penny had dropped that no-one really know what the heck ‘JEMI’ is.
I hate all the marketing stuff, I really do, but what I hate even more is the idea that no-one is going to find this website, or hear about my books, because they have no idea what a ‘JEMI’ is – is it a screwdriver? A new type of candy? Something like the Heimlich maneuver?
So last week, I took the plunge and I’ve bought a new domain name for this website, called: www.spiritualselfhelp.org.
I’m not planning any enormous changes to the site, but it’s really just a heads-up that over time, I’ll be referring less and less to the Jewish Emotional Health Institute, and more and more to ‘spiritual self-help’, because that really sums up what this site is all about, and no-one will mistake it for something you can buy in Walmart.
As always, I’m very happy to get your feedback and ideas about what you’d like to see more of on the site, or less of, and how I can best help you with your health-related issues, questions and ideas.
Give me feedback, people!
Drop me a line to: email@example.com, or leave me a comment.
And I look forward to sharing more ‘spiritual self-help’ stuff with you in the future.
A new study was just released by JAMA that shows there is a definite link between mothers using anti-depressants in pregnancy, and children being born with autism:
“This study shows that use of ADs during the second and/or third trimester is associated with an 87% increased risk of ASD, even after taking into account potential confounders; no association was observed between use of ADs during the first trimester and the risk of ASD. This increased risk was observed with the use of SSRIs only, as well as the use of more than 1 class of AD, during the second and/or third trimester. We further found that prenatal exposure to ADs during the second and/or third trimester was associated with an increased risk of ASD in children whose mothers have a history of depression.”
I personally know so many people who take anti-depressants in pregnancy, and no-one ever mentioned a word to them that it could potentially be harming their baby (this is just one of the prenatal side-affects linked to anti-depressants in pregnancy.)
I hope that as more and more of these links are found, people will start to rethink their ideas about SSRIs, and start to look for less harmful and more effective ways to counter the issue of depression (like my book ;-)
In the last post, we learnt that believing you can heal is the key to permanently overcoming mental illness. But another crucial element in getting well again is understanding what might have been making you sick, in the first place.
Mental illness is caused by a huge number of things, ranging across body, mind and soul.
In this post, let's take a look at some of the more common issues that can cause mental and emotional illnesses.
Mental health is often directly affected by poor diet and nutrition, lack of adequate sleep, lack of regular exercise, chemical pollutants and also electro-magnetic ‘smog’ that can severely disrupt the body’s own bioelectrical signaling system, that directs hormones, moods, cell growth and bunch of other things, besides.
This article in the JEMI knowledgebase explains more about the bioelectrical dimension to mental and physical health:
If you eat properly, sleep enough, exercise regularly (at least 30 minutes, at 3 times a week) and keep chemicals, stress and pollution to a minimum, and you’ll see big improvements in your mental health, even if you do nothing else.
Mental illnesses have a great deal to do with spending too much around emotionally unhealthy, critical, angry and abusive people. 99% of the time they are the direct result of learning how to behave, react and think in certain emotionally-unhealthy ways as a child, usually as a form of self-defense.
There’s a lot more to be said on this subject. The following posts will give you a flavor of what’s really going on:
Scientific causes of personality disorders
7 types of negative people
Again, just as these behaviours were learned, they can be unlearned, and the brain CAN be retrained.
A key part of this is learning more self-compassion for the self. The website below has practical ‘self-compassion’ exercises, plus a whole bunch of scientific studies proving the efficacy of self-compassion in overcoming all sorts of mental issues and problems:
Another good book to read is Running on Empty by Jonice Webb PhD, which sets out in detail how childhood emotional neglect can occur, the types of emotional and mental problems it causes for people as adults, and gives a lot of practical ideas on how to start fixing the problem.
This part of the equation is crucial for 2 reasons:
Again, this is profoundly connected to the idea that you have to believe things can change. When things look bleak, when your efforts haven’t got anyway, when you hit a tough patch and things are sliding even more out of control, being able to turn to God at those times and ask for help can make all the difference between coping, keeping it together, and eventually turning it around – or completely losing it.
If prayer, and a connection to God, can work for even physical illnesses (even in cases when the doctors had given up all hope of improvement or recovery), then it can certainly work for mental and emotional illnesses.
To sum up:
Full recovery from mental issues like depression, anxiety, panic disorders, bipolar, ADHD, pscyhosis – and many more! – is possible, and many people have already made that journey to health themselves, and you can find their stories and experiences all over the web.
In order to heal, you need to:
It's that time of year again....when book giveaways fill the air with...something or other....and so to join in the theme of giving and recieving (in a kosher, halachically acceptable way, natch), please find my humble offering:
The answer is unequivocably ‘yes’.
Just as a person experiences physical illnesses in their life that eventually pass, mental health issues are no different (I know that’s not the standard line, but the standard line as found in the DSN is based on a lot of half-baked theories and pseudo-scientific conjecture about what’s actually causing mental health issues, in the first place.)
The human mind is a remarkably resilient, flexible creation. Just as it was taught to behave or react in certain, unhealthy ways, it can be re-taught and re-trained to think and behave in ways that encourage good emotional health.
The main problem: people don't BELIEVE they can heal from mental illness
The main problem is that people don’t BELIEVE in their ability to get well again.
They frequently aren’t encouraged to make the changes required that would enable that to happen (more on this in a moment); and they have no idea what’s really causing the problems in the first place or what to do about it.
There are vested interests involved in keeping people 'sick'
If they’re lucky, they’ll wind up with a therapist who helps them to start focusing on these real, underlying issues (often, a cognitive-behaviorial therapist), and start to get to grips with the real issues that are making them mentally ill.
If they’re unlucky, they’ll wind up with ‘experts’ who push them on to pills as the only solution to their problem, either because they don’t really have anything else to offer them, or because they themselves have been misled into believing all the pseudo-science about ‘chemical imbalances’ pumped out by the pharmaceutical industry.
We don’t like to believe it, but the pharmaceutical industry, and many other ‘experts’ in the mental health field, have huge financial vested interests in keeping people permanently ‘mentally ill’, and in perpetual need of their products and services.
The alternative health view
So now, how does someone go about fully recovering their mental and emotional health, joie de vivre, happiness, sense of purpose, peace of mind, and a whole bunch of other good things?
The first thing, as mentioned above, is to believe that it’s possible, and don’t write yourself off.
Rufus May was diagnosed with a whole bunch of mental illnesses. He continued to believe he could heal, retrained as a psychiatrist, and is now helping others to recover from the other side of the couch.
Marsha Linehan, founder of the DBT approach to treating Borderline Personality Disorder was institutionalized in her younger years; again, she didn’t give up on herself, retrained, got past her difficulties and used her experiences to go on to help other people.
I myself had crippling depression for years, before I finally worked out what was underneath it, and took the steps required to start working on ameliorating those things. Now, I’m using my own experiences and knowledge to help other people find their way back to health and happiness.
So the first thing is believe it can happen.
The second thing is understand what’s really causing the problem, because mental health issues don’t just happen for no reason. Like all health issues, they have 3 components to them: body, mind and soul.
In the next post, we'll take a more detailed look at what the body, mind and soul factors are, that can affect your mental health.