One of the things that causes us human beings a great deal of emotional and spiritual pain is when we have a relationship with someone we love or care for, that ends up going very sour.
Sometimes, this happens because we change or the other person changes and the two ‘halves’ just don’t fit together as a good whole anymore. Other times, the person hasn’t changed at all - but we suddenly wake up and realize that what we thought was normal, OK, or standard behavior from the
other person actually really wasn’t at all, and was doing us a lot of damage all along.
Whatever the reason for the relationship going sour, or being revealed as being negative, there’s always a lot of fall-out to deal with. On the one hand, there are still tender feelings, warm memories and some sort of hope that the warmth and kindness that either truly was there, or that was erroneously believed to be there, can be recaptured. On the other hand, there’s often a pressing need for us to now protect us from this negative person, and the negative vibes they’re sending our way, as much as possible.
Trying to keep these competing interests satisfied can drive even the most stable person a little insane, especially when you the relationship in question concerns close family members.
That’s where the following visualization exercise comes in very handy, as it enables us to express and ‘protect’ our warm feelings, while at the same time being able to come to terms with, and if necessary complete distance ourselves from, the now negative and damaging relationship.
So without any further ado, here it is:
As with all visualisations, you can learn a great deal about what’s really going on with your relationships by doing this. If things are really over, this exercise can help you to clear up any related lingering and conflicting sub-conscious issues, and deal with your feelings appropriately.
If you get stuck at any time, ask God, or one of your favorite spiritual figures, like Rebbe Nachman, for example, for help.
You can read a much more in-depth Jewish approach to this subject HERE.
But in the meantime, this is one of my 'go to' techniques for starting to get the energy flowing properly in the nefesh level of soul again:
The technique is very simple: Before you go to bed, use some micropore-type medical tape to stick a WHOLE lentil on the places on your hand marked above.
When you wake up in the morning, see which ones have cracked - those are the areas that really need some work. If all your seeds crack overnight - that shows you're pretty exhausted on the energy front, and you may need to take a long, hard look at what needs to change for you to start enjoying your life more.
Keep sticking the seeds on every night (using new lentils...) until they stop cracking.
If you're very exhausted, or if one area is particularly weak, it could easily take a week or two, but don't give up!
Strange to say, lentils have brought me through some extremely stressful, taxing periods of life when my physical energy was literally crashing through the floor.
As always, if you want more background on energy meridians, and how it fits together with physical health and the spiritual side of things, pick up a copy of Talk to God and Fix Your Health, HERE.
The last few days, since the beginning of the Jewish New Year, I haven’t been feeling so hot. You can read more about that HERE, but after pondering on what’s going on I’ve come to the conclusion that the ‘vibe’ of the planet - or to put it in more spiritual terms, the Divine light that God is sending down to us 24/7 - has speeded up, or cranked up in someway, and my body is having some problems adjusting to it all.
People are energy - souls covered by an energetic mass that’s vibrating at a slower pace, to give it the illusion of being solid matter. That’s not new-age mumbo jumbo, that’s quantum physics.
God sustains every single cell, every single atom, by maintaining it in perpetual motion. Some people call this the ‘electric charge’ associated with every single atom, cell, object, all the way up to human beings. Others call it the life-force. But whatever you choose to call it, the simple fact is that we are energy in motion, and what keeps us in motion (and consequently, alive) is God.
Since the beginning of the year, I feel as though the ‘light’ God continually sends down to the planet, or energy, or shefa (the Hebrew word for bounty) or blessing, or however you want to refer to it has got so, so much stronger.
Trouble is, if the vessel - i.e. the body - hasn’t been cleaned out enough to receive this extra input, it can cause all sorts of problems, physically and mentally. What cleans out the body? There’s a few things, but it basically boils down to this:
They cause the brain to act and react differently, leading to all sorts of mental issues, personality disorders and suicidal tendencies (amongst many other things.)
So if the body is full of negative emotions and bad character traits, that means that energetically-speaking, the body’s electric circuits aren’t functioning properly. If the amount of ‘charge’ coming down from God then gets amped up - a person is going to start blowing circuits all over the place.
How do we clear out the bad character traits and emotions? First, we recognize that we actually have them (an enormous problem for most people…) Next, we recognize the damage they’re doing, particularly to us, but also to the people we love. Last, we ask God for help to get rid of them - which brings us to the second point, about talking to God regularly.
When you talk to God regularly, you gradually ‘up’ your body’s tolerance to Divine light and you strengthen your soul. When the soul is stronger, it can start to ‘talk down’ to the body more, and make its voice heard. It can steer the body away from the cheesecake, towards the salad bar. It can encourage the body to get a good night’s rest, instead of messing around on Facebook until 2am.
And, it can persuade the body that working on things like bad character traits and negative emotions is actually in the body’s best interests, too.
There’s an idea in Judaism that a person’s sins are literally engraved on their bones. Until we make Teshuva, the ‘bad energy’, or blockages, or problems our sins have created in the world are literally stored in the body, and are the source of our physical aches, pains, and other issues.
Once we make Teshuva, the energy ‘recombines’ into it’s proper order, the body starts to work better again and we feel so much happier and healthier and holier.
God is sending more and more light down to the world. Once I started having all the weird aches and pains the last week, I started exploring what’s going on in my personal prayer, and tried to figure out what’s underneath that pain in my hip, that bad headache, that difficulty breathing. I’ve been getting some amazing insights:
The hip is a bad character trait I ‘inherited’ from an old relative, that I really need to work on uprooting asap.
The breathing issue was connected to me still being angry at someone who hurt me a lot three years’ ago. I had to work on forgiveness, and letting go of this person with love.
The headache is my nervous system going haywire because there are huge things building up in the world. For that, I’ve had to work on my emuna, and also to sedate the bladder meridian and triple warmer meridian points, and to stick lentils in a few places to try and clear the block that’s happening there.
It’s a work in progress, and it’s probably never going to end. But each time I clean off whatever issue arises, I feel so much happier and better. A big reason why people’s bodies wear out in old age is because if we’re not cleaning the sins out of bones, and we’re just adding to them as we go along in life, sooner or later we get to a point where the body can’t cope anymore, and starts to disintegrate.
God is speeding things up right now. Work that used to take years can now take weeks or even just days and hours.
So, if you’re also feeling more tired, achey, fatigued or stressed than usual, know that it’s because your body, your vessel, is struggling to cope with the extra ‘light’ God is sending to the world. And if you don’t deal with it now, it’s only going to get worse!
As a first port of call, pick up a copy of ‘Talk to God and Fix Your Health’, read it, and then use all the ideas and techniques in that book to start clearing out your system across body, mind and soul.
Whatever else is going to happen this year, God wants us to get to work on uprooting our bad character traits and negative emotions, and the sooner you start that process, the better and healthier you’ll feel.