General information about Meridians
What are 'Energy Meridians?'
Energy meridians were first mapped in the human body around 3,500 years' ago by Chinese physicians, who understood that some sort of subtle energy (what we would call the soul) was animating the body.
When the energy was flowing around the body correctly, the person stayed healthy. When the energy was stuck, stagnant, weak or blocked in some way, the person would get sick.
These early practitioners of Chinese medicine mapped the energy flow around the body, and identified 14 main energy 'pathways', which they called meridians. Each meridian was named for the main organ, or physical system, it governed or regulated in the body.
They then developed the systems of acupuncture (using small needles inserted into particular points along each meridian) and acupressure (using light pressure from the fingers on certain points along each meridian) to help energy flow better, and to help release the energetic 'blocks' in the body. From the beginning, Chinese medicine recognised that the energetic blocks in the body were usually caused by the person's negative emotions.
The energy of emotions
Whenever you get sick in some way, your emotions usually contain most of the information you need to work out why that may be happening.
For example, you don't need to be a rocket scientist to know that eating bad food can make you ill. But when you start to work with energy meridians and the underlying emotions, the emphasis shifts away from what the person is actually eating, to finding out why the person is drawn to the bad food in the first place.
What underlying emotion is being repressed, or reacted to unconsciously, when you start reaching for the chips or the chocolate cake? That's where the meridians can really help you to work out what's actually going on, at a profound deep level.
How to use meridians to identify the underlying issues
There are two main ways that you can use meridians to start to build up a more complete picture of your mental and physical health, and how the two are affecting, and affected by, each other:
1) Work back from an existing physical problem or issue
Below, you'll find a JEMI Quick Reference tool that will links particular physical issues to particular meridians. If you already know that you have a physical problem, or a physical weakness in a particular area of your body, you can go straight to the relevant meridian, and see what emotions may be hidden underneath. For example, one-sided migraine headaches, sciatica or gallbladder issues all suggest that something is blocking the gallbladder meridian. The negative emotions that are connected to the gallbladder meridian include anger (at other people), judgementalness and rage.
(This online Guide is dealing with physical ways to unblock the body's energy, and to get negative emotions out of your system. But this is only one part of JEMI's God-based holistic health approach. The other two parts involve:
1) boosting your GodJuice and spiritual connection; and
2) using a number of different tools that work directly at the mental and emotional level.
For more information on how to implement the full mind, body and soul approach to your physical or emotional issue, click HERE to check out JEMI's free online course called 'Talk to God and Fix Your Health'.)
Quick Reference Table: Meridians and their associated physical issues
(click the link, to access the PDF)
Once you know which negative emotional state could be causing your physical illness, the road to real, lasting recovery starts to get much clearer: Deal with the underlying emotion, and nine times out of ten, the physical problem will resolve without any further intervention.
2) Identify the negative emotion, and then associate it with a meridian
If you already know that you have a particular negative emotion or emotional issue that you want to work on, then the second route is to find out what particular energy meridian that emotion is associated with.
Again, JEMI's done the hard work for you, and put together the following Quick Reference tool that shows you which meridians are associated with each main negative emotion,
Meridians and emotions - a quick reference tool (click the link to access the PDF)
Click HERE to continue reading (but only if you're already a member...)
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As we were discussing in the previous post, relatives of narcissists usually get caught in a hugely distressing Catch-22:
If they continue to hang out with their narcissist relatives– they usually get miserable, stressed, hurt and ultimately ill. If they don’t hang out with them – they end up losing their illusion of having a relationship with a close family member, and it can also cause them no end of difficulties with other relatives and acquaintances who have no idea why they’re keeping away from the externally wonderful narcissist.
There are no simple solutions here. If you haven’t got God in the picture, at least peripherally as spiritual back-up, the situation can literally drive you mad, because it’s the most ‘no-win’ situation imaginable. Whatever you do, there’s huge consequences, and there’s never going to be a real solution to the problem, because the ‘solution’ would be for the narcissist to acknowledge their own bad behavior and issues, and that’s simply never going to happen.
Over the years, I’ve found that the following 7 rules has helped a lot of people deal with their narcissist relatives:
The 7 Rules of Handling Narcissist Relatives
1) Adopt a ‘zero expectation’ policy with the narcissist. Sometimes they can be nice, friendly, generous, even. That’s when they can really hurt you, if you develop any expectation of them genuinely caring enough about you to put you first in the relationship. Whatever ‘good’ they can give you, be grateful for, but don’t start hoping that things are going to change. That’s a recipe for heartache.
2) Set firm boundaries – your mental health comes first. If you don’t want to attend their party / weekend lunch / holiday get together / golf day with their buddies – tell them. Yes, they’ll get upset and the illusion of them caring about you will get blown to pieces again – but you’ll start to feel so much happier and more in control of your own life, if you start to stand up to the craziness.
3) Don’t buy into the guilt and shame-inducing manipulation that YOU are really the problem. You’re not. But believing that really takes some doing. (The Talk to God and Fix Your Health Modules on healthy compassion, accountability and kindnesses are a great place to start. Click the links to take a look.)
4) Minimise the time you spend with them as much as possible. If the narcissist is nice for half an hour and then starts sniping– limit your visits with them to half an hour. Limit phone calls to once a week, or switch to emails (which lots of narcissists hate, btw, as it’s much harder for them to disown or twist their way out of things they actually wrote down in black and white.) The less interaction you have with them, the better it will be for everyone.
5) If they aren’t a close family member – walk away. Close relatives, especially parents, require at least a due measure of respect and consideration, even when it’s very painful (within limits…) Other people don’t. You can’t fix them, you can’t change them, and you probably have enough on your own plate in any case.
6) Work on your compassion. This is really only an option once you’ve taken the necessary steps to stop the personality disordered family member from still hurting you.
For as long as they’re still actively causing you pain and upset, you’ll have to work pretty hard on defusing your anger, and it’s unlikely you’ll have much energy left over to start feeling compassion for them (from a distance). But feeling compassion for them in the long-term only helps you, because then you stop blaming them, and you can start to forgive them more, and move past the problems they’ve caused you.
7) Talk to God about it. This is often the only thing that lets you stay in close contact with a narcissist relative whilst maintaining your own peace of mind and equanimity. If you'd like some help getting started, try the How, What and Why of Talking to God pocket guide.
Having relatives with narcissistic personality disorder is a very challenging situation, and it requires huge amounts of inner strength to acknowledge, deal with and overcome. But there’s an idea that God doesn’t give a person a test they can’t handle – even if stretches them way beyond their comfort zone.
If God gave you the test of having relatives with personality disorders like narcissism or anti-social behaviour, it's because He knows it's going to help you reach your potential some how, and that you can definitely overcome it, albeit with huge amounts of effort, sweat and prayer.
One of the most frustrating and uniquely challenging aspects of dealing with family members that have personality disorders, especially narcissism, is that the family member themself can’t see the problem.
Yes, they can kind of see that people get upset at them a lot; that they get into disagreements and rows more than others; that they have no friends, or difficulties holding on to new friends; that their relationship with their children is plastic, at best, or strained and non-existent at worse, because the child can’t take them any more and has cut off ties.
Narcissists can't see that they are the problem
But try to tell someone with narcissistic personality disorder (for example) that they are the problem, or that they need to change, or that they have all the issues they’re actually accusing you of having – and you’ll enter a world of warped madness that defies belief, unless you’ve actually experienced it for yourself.
Say you’re dealing with someone who routinely belittles you, ignores your deepest needs and manipulates you into doing what they want, against your own best interests. If you were dealing with an emotionally-healthy person, you could at least try to have a discussion about what’s happening, and once you get through the defensiveness, they’ll admit and accept that you have some ‘right’ on your side, and that there is room for improvement.
This simply doesn’t happen with people who have cluster B personality disorders like narcissism or anti-social behavior disorder, for example. For the rest of the post, I’m going to concentrate on narcissism, because I think it’s far more prevalent than the mental health field accepts or recognizes (but that’s a post for another time…)
Super-successful but still have Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissism is unique amongst serious personality disorders inasmuch as you can be an off-the-scale malignant narcissist, and still be externally ‘successful’. You probably have a job – even a good job, or high-flying career that’s earning you a lot of money. You probably have a spouse and children, who seem the epitome of perfection the outside world, despite the chaos and madness going on behind closed doors.
You often have friends (but either go through them fast, or hang out with people with their own, different, personality disorder that keeps them coming back for more of your manipulative, abusive, grandstanding, and uncaring behavior). In short, you can look like you’ve truly got life sussed, and managed to fool most of the people, most of the time, while still exhibiting a full-blown personality disorder.
The contrast between who the person with NPD actually is, and who they seem to be is one of the most head-wrecking things for people in close relationships with them, especially their children.
The children grow up in an atmosphere of emotional neglect, manipulation and verbal and psychological violence (narcissists are rarely physically violent, although it can happen, especially if they also have another co-personality disorder like Borderline Personality Disorder or Anti-Social PD).
The outside world has no idea what's really going on
Try to explain what’s going on to the outside world – they have no idea how bad it is, or how head-wrecking and emotionally-destructive the relationship with the narcissist is. The narcissist won’t change their behavior, or even accept that they’re doing anything wrong.
(As a side note, most people only discover how truly ‘crazy’ the narcissist is when they actually gather their courage to start having those frank conversations aimed at trying to change the status quo. Pushing a narcissist to a wall where they have no choice except to confront their own bad behavior and imperfections guarantees some hugely vitriolic and mind-bendingly awful responses.)
The narcissism Catch-22:
So this, in a nutshell, is the Catch 22 confronting close members of people with personality disorders like narcissism: the person causing the problems won’t change their behavior, seek help (in whatever context), or even accept that they have issues that need dealing with. They will continue to treat you badly when it suits them, to hurt you carelessly and deliberately, and to wreck your emotional and mental health and wellbeing by insisting you join them in their ‘perfect’ fantasy land where they can do no wrong. Period.
So now, what’s a close family member to do?
We'll discuss some of the options available in the next post.
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Yes, it's harder work than popping a pill, but it has ZERO drawbacks, and actually solves the problem.
For the fat to really stay off, people have to know WHAT EMOTIONS ARE DRIVING THE OVEREATING in the first place.
• What's making them so stressed, and why?
• What's making them feel anxious, and why?
• What emotion is underneath the compulsive eating?
This could easily take you 5 years in therapy and thousands of bucks to work out, but I'm going to share my short-cut ideas with you now, and you can find out more about what's really making you tick, emotionally, by doing JEMI's free ‘Talk to God and Fix Your Health’ course.
The emotions that usually underpin overeating include:
• Repressed anger (especially at a parent)
• Beating yourself up (which is why if you really want to lose weight, you need to go easy on yourself, and stop having a go at yourself for eating the second helping of dessert. Instead, practise self-compassion, forgive yourself, and immediately move on.)
• Loneliness - food is our friend, it gives us something to do (a lot of people start smoking for the same reason)
• Sadness and depression (again, usually linked to spending too much time with negative, selfish, uncaring people who pretend to be 'there' for us, but who really aren't).
• Anxiety - which tends to pop up whenever people don't know what's coming next, and the 'bad' is freely mixed in with the 'good' again, especially when it comes to close relationships.
• Feeling empty, and / or like life's meaningless. That empty feeling is characteristic of people who've got disconnected from their soul in someway, and are now trying to fill the spiritual lack with material stuff, ie, food.
So to sum up, the main factors that are keeping people from slimming down are:
1) An impaired ability to digest and metabolise their food, energetically, because they have weak spleen meridian and / or an over-reactive Triple Warmer. These energy systems can conspire to 'keep a person fat', regardless of how much effort they make to lose the weight.
The good news is, these energy systems can be reprogrammed using easy, self-applied Energy Medicine techniques as set out in Donna Eden's book, 'Energy Medicine for Women', or in free JEMI guide to working with your energy meridians.
2) A bunch of repressed negative emotions that are actually triggering the impulse to eat.
Once these negative emotions, and what's causing them, have been identified and acknowledged (which is often really hard work, and not done in 5 minutes), THEN and only then, can the person start to really choose against their impulse to overeat.
If there is one emotion that will have anyone reaching for the chocolate cake, it's BEATING YOURSELF UP.
So be nice to yourself under all circumstances, forgive yourself for any food 'indulgences', and keep looking for the good in yourself (and staying away from nasty, critical, angry, blaming people…) if you want to really lose weight and keep it off.
Good luck to everyone out there who's trying to slim down; you WILL get there in the end, but the key is to know that it's really not anywhere as much in your control of what you want to eat, and why, as many people think.
Someone asked me: ‘What are the factors preventing fat people from slimming down?’
It’s a great question, because it’s not simply a matter of eating less, and healthier food. There are a whole bunch of deeper reasons why people over-eat, or comfort-eat, or store extra fat in their bodies. So in the next couple of posts, I want to look at two areas that are normally all but ignored in the quest for slimness, but which actually hold the key to losing the pounds.
The real reasons why people overeat
There are two main reasons:
1) Repressed emotions that the person is eating in response to.
2) Energy patterns in their body, related to the body's 14 energy meridians, that the person normally hasn't even heard of….until now.
It doesn't require a PhD to work out that if you eat more calories than you can burn off, that extra 'energy' gets stored as fat. But the real question is why do people feel compelled to eat more than they need, and to answer that properly, you probably need a whole bunch of PhD plus the gift of prophecy, because it's really not a simple matter.
And, it's something that's affecting more and more of the population. According to one study, 150 million Americans weigh more than they should, and included in that figure is 60 million Americans who are clinically obese.
Just let the enormity of those figures sink in for a bit.
The Energy Dimension of Weight Management
Donna Eden wrote a book called 'Energy Medicine for Women', which I highly recommend, and much of what I'm going to share with you now comes from a chapter in that book called weight management. According to Eden, the following factors affect how much food people eat:
The nine categories of over-eating
In the book, Eden then goes on to share her 9 nine categories of different types of over-eating, what causes them, plus energy exercises you can do to start curtailing the 'feed me' impulse at the level of the body's energy systems, before it's even materialised as an intellectual craving for a Snickers. The nine categories are:
Again, go buy her book and start following her recommendation for simple, easy-to-do Energy Medicine things you can to kill off your inappropriate food cravings.
Energy exercises, especially things like the Temporal Tap exercise (click to see an article on how to do it) can work wonders.
But in the next post, we’ll learn why understanding and acknowledging your emotions really holds the key to weight loss.