One of the biggest causes of stress is when we end up putting people who are low-priority ahead of those who should be top priority.
You know, like that needy friend who is on the phone tying up your time and attention for hours while your kids start going bananas because you didn't manage to get supper on the table, help them with their homework or maybe, even just say 'hi' to them and spend 5 minutes catching up on their day at school.
Part of what I'm trying to do with my Stress to Sanity Masterclass, which is nearly done, BH, and which I hope to roll out here soon for early-birders, is to help people quickly and easily identify what's really stressing them out, so moving from 'stressed' to 'solution' gets way, way easier.
As part of that, I've just put together this "Relationship Priority Matrix".
The idea behind it is pretty simple. The lower the number, the higher the priority. And if you're spending a bunch of time and energy on people who are in the outer rings - at the expense of people who are in your 'inner circles' - then that for sure is going to be causing you some massive stress. And it may well be time to rethink what's going on.
In the meantime, the 'What's Stressing Women Out In Their Relationships' Survey is still taking responses - we're up to 55 at the moment, and I'm aiming for 100 - so if you haven't already, take a mo and fill it in.
I'm happy to send the results to you, if you want, once the survey is done.