the energetic approach to overcoming personality disorders: minimise negative emotions and negative people
These last two things also seriously compromise your spleen energy - and are probably the two biggest problems facing people who are struggling to overcome personality disorders.
6) Negative emotions - It's been scientifically proven that human emotions carry a bioelectric 'charge'. As discussed in these posts, the human body is one, big, interconnected electrical circuit, comprised of billions of separate electrical interactions.
When you feel 'happy', that creates a particular bio-electrical charge in your body, that in turn sparks off a number of specific physiological reactions. When you feel angry, for example, that creates a different bio-electrical charge, which sparks off a number of other physiological reactions - many of which are usually not very helpful, health-wise.
Here's where you learn another amazing piece of information: human beings (and for that matter, all living organisms) are incredibly sensitive to very small changes in the electromagnetic field that surrounds every single one of us.
We pick up, and react to, the smaller energetic vibrations and charges around us in myriad ways, that are only know starting to be really studied and understood by Western science.
Why this is relevant to our discussion of personality disorders, is because human beings PICK UP THE BIO-ELECTRICAL 'CHARGE' ASSOCIATED WITH OTHER PEOPLE'S EMOTIONS, and that 'charge' can profoundly affect our own physiology, thought processes and feelings.
The impact of super-charged negative emotions
People with personality disorders tend to have powerful, and often powerfully-negative emotions. Their anger, to use one example, is 'super-charged', bio-electrically. Even if they aren't expressing it verbally or obviously - and many narcissists will refuse to honestly acknowledge that they're ever angry, upset, disappointed, or judgemental - their negative emotion is still radiating out of them, and is bio-electrically affecting you.
This is the physiological explanation of why being around passively-aggressive people, or suffering martyrs can make you feel so weak, depleted and inexplicably 'stressed'.
Now, guess which meridian is the first place that gets bio-electrically zapped and taken out? - You got it - spleen! Spleen metabolises all the external 'input' you receive from the outside, from food, to sounds to knowledge, to other people's feelings.
So your own negative emotions can take you out 'from the inside', physiologically, and disrupt the working of a number of your internal systems, and other people's negative emotions can take you out 'from the outside'.
Spleen is also the 'happy' energy in the body, so when you're feeling down or depressed, nine times out of ten, you can trace it back to spending too much time around negative people. Which bring us on neatly to our next subject.
7) Negative people. Human beings are not angels; even the best of us will occasionally have a melt-down and display some sort of bad character trait or negative emotion. Being around someone who very occasionally has a bad day is not fun, and it will still have some impact on you, but the energetic fall-out will be relatively small, especially if they apologise afterwards and try to make amends for their bad behaviour.
By contrast, a negative person routinely criticises, shames, guilts, yells-at, ignores or blames the people around them.
It doesn't take a genius to work out when someone is consistently acting in this way, it usually points to some major, underlying emotional disturbance. If the negative person is going through an incredibly traumatic time in some way, their behaviour can be understood, if not excused: remember that trauma is probably the single biggest thing that takes out your Spleen meridian, and depletes your ability to feel empathy and compassion for other people.
In turn, lack of empathy is the defining component of Cluster B personality disorders - which is where we hit the vicious circle: Energetically, people with personality disorders usually have very weak spleen energy (usually, as a result of some major trauma experienced in early childhood, or even, in a past life that wasn't 'fixed'.)
Their internal negativity reduces their ability to feel compassion still further, and they regularly project their 'negative vibes' on to others, weakening other people's ability to feel empathy, as described above.
Spend too much time being blamed, criticised, yelled-at, manipulated etc, and your own spleen energy will get taken out - and you'll also start to lose your ability to feel balanced, healthy compassion and empathy for others.
Either you'll have no compassion for anyone, including yourself, or you'll have excessive compassion for others, and very little for yourself, and your own needs.
Simple energy medicine techniques can help protect you from negative vibes, as I've written about here, in this post.
But the better strategy, long-term, is to minimise interaction with negative people, until and unless you've got your spleen energy strong again, your immune system is robust, and you can quickly mend any electrical disruptions you experience from hanging out with them.
Tomorrow, we'll finish the week off by recapping the key elements of the energy approach to overcoming personality disorders.