In the last post, you learned about Alexithymia, a condition where you don't have the words to describe your feelings.
Now, you might be asking yourself why that's such a big deal? I mean, plenty of people don't always know what they're really feeling, and they're doing just fine. So why am I going on about this so much?
There are a few problems that can occur when people can't identify or describe their feelings:
So now you're hopefully convinced that it's something you need to take seriously, how do you go about fixing the problem?
Psychologist Jonice Webb has written a great book on the subject, called 'Running on Empty'. At the back of the book, she has a huge list of the different words you can use, to identify what emotions you might be feeling.
As your emotional vocabulary expands, you'll start to be much more in touch with your authentic self, you'll be able to express yourself more clearly, and your relationships will develop a new depth and sense of connection. You'll also probably stop feeling so angry, frustrated and 'stressed' all the time (people often use the word 'stressed' when they can't describe what emotion they're actually feeling.)
If you don't want to buy the book, then you can do the following (it takes a bit of time, but it's free):
Make your own 'feeling words' list
Take the following list of words, and head over to thesaurus.com, or somewhere similarly, to make your own list of words. Be sure to check out the 'antonym' suggestions too, to give you more emotional word ideas. You'd be amazed how many terms there are to say 'not happy' - and if you go through and start learning the definitions of the different words on your list, very soon you should be enjoying some first-class emotional literacy.
And if you come across a great word you'd like to learn more about, drop me a line and I'll see what I can do to help you.