1) Practical and functional
2) Insightful and transformative
For example, if you're super-worried about turning up late to your big meeting, then there are certainly practical, functional conclusions you can draw about the need to leave in plenty of time; or taking the bus instead of driving, so you don't need to waste time finding a parking spot etc.
These types of conclusions deal with the superficial concern on the day, but don't address the underlying emotional issue.
An insightful and transformative conclusion is something that doesn’t just tackle the symptom of the problem, but gets to work on the core.
Examples of a transformative type of conclusion for the Big Interview Mind Map could include:
- Making a commitment to trace the anxiety about being late back to its root.
- Using an energy psychology tool like Emotional Freedom Technique, or the Tapas Acupressure Technique (TAT) to start defusing the excessive emotional charge and worry associated with being late.
- Getting God involved, and working on your emuna, (belief or faith), so that it's easier for you to accept that God's running the world, and you don't have to start beating yourself up or blaming yourself for being late, especially if you did everything you could to be on time.
The final step of every mind map you do: Set yourself goals / action points
Again, this last step can be split into practical, functional action points that deal with tangible issues and problems; and / or more long-term goals or action points, that start to address the underlying emotions.
To continue with our 'scared to be late' example, the practical action points could include:
- Drive the route at the time you need to be at the meeting, but a day or two before, in order to get an accurate idea of how long the journey will actually take, and to scope out the parking facilities.
- Check the bus schedule.
- Make the necessary babysitting or car pool arrangements, etc to enable you to leave at the right time, on the day of your interview.
- Set a deadline for yourself to do a mind-map solely on the issue of being scared to be late.
- Take the free, JEMI 'Talk to God and Fix Your Health' online course, to get more of a feel of where the fear of being late is really coming from.
- Commit to talking to God for a minute every day about dissolving your irrational fear of being late.
- Do a TAT session, solely on the issue of being petrified of being late.
If you don't manage to achieve all of your action points or goals, don't get discouraged. Go and talk to God about what's really going on, do another mind-map, talk things over with a close friend that you trust, and you'll see that one way or another, things will start to move again.
The following rules apply to every mind-map you do, regardless of whether it's simple, complicated, deep, practical, emotional, or whatever.
Rule 1: Get G-d involved in the process
Rule 2: Be honest
Rule 3: Don't censor yourself
Rule 4: You can't do this wrong
Rule 5: No 2 mind-maps are the same
Rule 6: Judge yourself favorably
Rule 7: Keep an open mind
Rule 8: Translate your mind-map into real time
Rule 9: Pray on it
Rule 10: Write spontaneously