If you're a regular visitor, then you probably already know that I’ve written a whole bunch of articles about this particular subject, a lot of which you can find in the JEMI Knowledge Base. A good one to start with is this:
Overcoming personality disorders: the mind, body and soul approach
Following on from the last post, there’s a huge amount of overlap with what official research is suggesting as the causes, but the main points where the two paradigms differ are as follows:
The Chinese Medicine approach which correlates the body’s energy meridians to the health of particular organs and emotions explains this differently, and to my mind, more logically.
Body affects mind, and vice-versa, and both are affected by the soul.
The main emotional ‘problem’ coming through again and again in personality disorders of all stripes is lack of empathy and compassion, either for oneself and / or for other people.
In Chinese Medicine, the energy meridian associated with empathy and compassion is the Spleen Meridian. The diagram at the top of this post shows you the 'pathway' of the Spleen Energy Meridian.
Modern society is very hard on the Spleen Meridian, and the following things take it out and weaken it:
What weakens the Spleen Energy Meridian?
If you compare the above with the official research, you’ll find the following things in common, when it comes to discussing scientifically-supported causes of personality disorders:
An alternative paradigm - and a possible solution to the problem
So to sum up, I think personality disorders are on the rise for the following reasons:
· Lack of connection to God = world is a very scary, stressful place (this is also has a direct effect on the lack of self-compassion and ‘resilience’ mentioned above.
· Modern life (including the traumatic way most mothers now give birth in modern hospital settings) wipes out the Spleen meridian – causing increased sensitivity and intolerance in the infant, reduced ability to feel compassion and empathy (a key PD trait), PTSD as a response to the trauma experienced, or feeling that ‘the world is not a safe place’.
· Modern technology and lack of interaction with others – continues to wipe out spleen meridian, and also exacerbates the problem as face-to-face connection with others builds empathy and compassion (the main problem underlying many PDs.) Also, kids who are plugged into Facebook 24/7 are defactoexperiencing parental neglect.
· Emphasis on materiality instead of spiritual development – means that people mistreat others, verbally abuse their children (and other people…), act selfishly and self-absorbed, and crush other people into the ground in order to get what they want.
Of course, all these things can be worked on, ameliorated and eventually fixed, which means that personality disorders don’t have to permanent features of life for the people affected, but can be treated and eventually, cured.
Q: What do you mean by 'beating depression'? Is it really possible to beat depression for good?
A: To answer the last part of your question first, ‘heck yes!’ It is possible to beat depression, but only once you know what’s actually really triggering your depressions.
Depressions happen because:
1) Physically, the body isn’t operating effectively in some way.
That could be because of:
* lack of sleep,
* lack of the minerals and vitamins the brain needs to function,
* too many toxins and chemicals depleting the body’s stores of things like Vitamin B,
* not enough regular exercise (the 'sedentary' lifestyle)
* electro-magnetic ‘smog’ from WiFi, FM radio, TV sets etc playing havoc with the body’s own electronic impulse messaging system (that controls things like the release of hormones and ‘stress’ chemicals’.)
Chinese Medicine sums up these physical processes by saying that the body’s Spleen meridian (home of the body’s ‘happy energy’) has got weakened, and needs to be strengthened. You can strengthen spleen meridian with acupressure, acupuncture, and other energy medicine techniques.
Also, when people go into the homolateral energy state, that can drag them down into depression, particularly the zombie-fied feeling and listlessness that’s typical of ‘clinical depression’.
(The JEMI Knowledgebase has a whole bunch of articles explaining more about all of these ideas, if you want to learn more.)
2) Mentally and emotionally – depression has been scientifically linked to trauma and stress
Ie, it’s a type of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) response. (And can be treated as such – check out the recent articles on the JEMI blog for more info about what PTSD is, how to treat it, and it’s links to depression and anxiety:)
The sort of stress associated with PTSD and depression and anxiety doesn’t just mean experiencing a car crash, terrorist attack or serious illness (although it can also mean those things.) It’s also caused by difficult childhoods, including things like being around chronically angry, aggressive, immature parents, as well as the more ‘hardcore’ things like obvious physical abuse and neglect.
My own view is that most people get depressed because they’re spending too much time with negative, uncaring people who make them feel undervalued, worthless and ‘bad’. Figuring that out, and choosing to minimize those relationships and to build stronger, healthier relationships instead is a huge part of most people’s journey towards permanently beating their depression.
3) Spiritually – A lot of people are struggling to answer the question: what is your life actually FOR?
What’s the purpose? What’s the meaning? Without a spiritual context, it’s practically impossible to come up with a genuinely satisfying answer to that question.
But people are made up of three elements, body, mind and soul, and if any one of those areas is being ignored or neglected, it can and does cause big problems and a feeling that something is ‘missing’ in life.
So now to answer the first part of your question:
In order to really ‘beat’ depression permanently, you have to tackle the causes of it across all three levels of body, mind and soul.
If you aren’t addressing the problem across all three levels, then at some point, it will re-occur. If you are tackling depression in this God-based holistic way, then your chances of beating it are actually very good.
By beating it, I don’t mean that you’ll never, ever feel depressed again. There are so many triggers for it, that something will undoubtedly spark it off at some point when you’ve been ill, or super-stressed, or have a big life event occur.
BUT – you’ll recognize the trigger for the depression much faster (ie, lack of sleep, email from horrible sibling, lacking true meaning in life etc) and deal with it at its root. And as soon as you recognize the trigger, you’re more than half-way to solving the problem, and getting back on track.
These days, my depressions now generally don’t last more than a day or two max, every 6 months or so, and they don’t take me out or bring me down anywhere near as much as they used to.
By contrast, before I figured out what was triggering them I could get depressed very often, feel terrible, and sometimes I’d get stuck in depression for months at a time.
So to sum up: it IS possible to beat depression permanently, but first you have to really work out what could be causing them across all three levels of body, mind and soul.
This is my first official attempt at an infographic! Know I've got the hang of them a bit, I hope to do a few more of them...if you like this sort of stuff. Let me know!
There's loads of things you can do to start boosting your immune system, but the following things can make the biggest difference, health-wise, in the shortest amount of time:
1) Aromatherapy - Try to find a good, reputable supplier or essential oils, preferably who deals in organic oils, as it's much harder to fool customers about the purity of the product when there's additional requirements.
Then, take a look at the following oils, that can all help to boost your immune system: tea tree, lavender, helichrysum and rose (warning: real rose is super expensive, but it's worth it, because a little goes a very long way.)
You can use a drop or 2 in the bath, or you can mix them in with a bit of almond oil (one drop to one tsp of oil) and use them as a massage rub, or even, just put a drop of essential oil on your pillow at night .
You imbibe the natural chemicals present in essential oils via your sense of smell, which is directly connected to your limbic system, and they can go to work on your nervous system almost immediately. The calmer and more relaxed you feel, the less stressed out you get, the less wear-and-tear occurs to your immune system.
The effect of essential oils is cumulative, and even within a couple of weeks, you can often see a real difference in your sense of wellness, happiness and physical health.
2) Food - Whatever you can do to lessen the 'toxic processing' burden on your immune system is always going to be very helpful. You don't have to go crazy about it - God is in the picture, after all - but the following general guidelines are a very useful way of keeping the junk to a minimum, without becoming fanatical about food:
Keep away from:
3) Energy Medicine - Spleen is the energy meridian most associated with a healthy, robust immune system, and for most people today, Spleen Meridian is in a chronically weak state. That's the bad news. The good news is that there's some very easy things you can do to boost Spleen, like tracing and flushing your meridians, holding your 'strengthening' spleen points, and doing the 'three thumps' (WARNING: clicking this link will take you to a picture of a woman with mild cleavage) exercise every day.
Check out the free guide in JEMI's Knowledge Base section, that will tell you how to do a lot of these things.)
4) Negative People - The more you can stay away from negative people, the stronger your immune system will get. In particular, try to minimise your contact with anyone who regularly tries to blame, criticise, guilt or shame you. When you're on the receiving end of this type of negative behaviour, it can completely wipe out the energy flowing in your Spleen Meridian, which in turn compromises your immune system. (Yes, negative people really can and do make you sick!)
Regularly doing these four things should give your immune system a real boost, and make it much harder for illness to get a toe-hold.
The following things will help to start solving the problem of personality disorders, and particularly the lack of empathy and compassion that characterises them, at the body, or energetic level:
1) Identify and deal with deep-seated traumas - using Energy Psychology techniques, bodywork methods including massage and kinesiology, and prayer. 'Talk Therapy' doesn't work for personality disorders, as there is mental disconnect that prevents Cluster B people from acknowledging their own wrong-doing. Admitting something needs to change is the starting point for any process of teshuva, transformation and growth.
2) Cut out the Junk - especially food additives and MSG.
3) Minimise environmental pollutions and chemicals - stop bleaching the toilet every day! (If you can smell the bleach, of floor cleaner, or fabric softener, that means your body is in the process of dealing with all those 'bleach toxins' that have just made it in to your system).
4) Limit your screen time; try to set boundaries with your mobile phone use, and chuck out your microwave and TV. Microwaves, computer screen, TV signals and FM radio all emit signals in the 50-60 MHZ range, that has been linked in a number of scientific experiments to some serious, and potentially catastrophic negative bio-electromagnetic outcomes in the human body (ie, they can cause serious, potentially terminal diseases, God forbid).
But as well as messing up your physical health, they can also seriously disrupt other physiological processes including hormones, bio-rhythyms and emotions - and take out your spleen energy in the process.
5) Minimise stress, and learn to deal with it better. Physically, that means learning energy medicine techniques to take your Triple Warmer meridian off high-alert (Triple Warmer governs the fight / flight / freeze response.) Emotionally, that means developing good emotional health habits. (JEMI free 'Talk to God and Fix Your Health' course can show you how). Spiritually, that means working on your connection to God, and talking to Him daily about all the stuff that's going on in your life.
6) Learn how to deal with your negative emotions in a healthy way, instead of letting them fester. The fastest way to start doing this is JEMI's free Talk to God course, that will teach you the 3 foundations of emotional health, and also give you practical tools to help you to defuse your subconscious emotional 'buttons' at every level of body, mind and soul. (Sign up for it HERE)
7) Minimise your contact with negative people - they're taking your spleen energy (aka, your ability to feel compassion and empathy for others, including yourself) out with every single interaction you have with them.
8) Strengthen spleen! JEMI's free Basic Guide to Strengthening Your Energy Meridians LINK will tell you everything you need to know to get started.
9) Apply as much of the above as you can to your children. If your baby had a difficult, traumatic birth, for example, make a habit of tracing their meridians every day (or at the very least, their spleen meridian), to get their system strengthened and back up to par.
Home cook more of their food; find ways to stop them spending so much online, or zoned-out watching videos. Fill your home with positivity, and work on your own negative emotions. As we learned, if you still feel angry at your kid, even if you're not telling them, they can feel it - and you're literally sending them 'negative vibes' that are taking out their spleen energy.
I know this is so hard, and we aren't angels. But whatever little moves we make in the right direction, God will build them into some hugely positive changes and improvements.
As we're going to learn in the next few sections, so much of what's causing the huge increase in Personality Disorders is really out of our hands, and more a matter of modern life and very deep spiritual considerations. So do your bit, and pray a lot, but DON'T BLAME YOURSELF.
Keep reading, because next, we're going to look at how to deal with personality disorders on the emotional level.
the energetic approach to overcoming personality disorders: minimise negative emotions and negative people
These last two things also seriously compromise your spleen energy - and are probably the two biggest problems facing people who are struggling to overcome personality disorders.
6) Negative emotions - It's been scientifically proven that human emotions carry a bioelectric 'charge'. As discussed in these posts, the human body is one, big, interconnected electrical circuit, comprised of billions of separate electrical interactions.
When you feel 'happy', that creates a particular bio-electrical charge in your body, that in turn sparks off a number of specific physiological reactions. When you feel angry, for example, that creates a different bio-electrical charge, which sparks off a number of other physiological reactions - many of which are usually not very helpful, health-wise.
Here's where you learn another amazing piece of information: human beings (and for that matter, all living organisms) are incredibly sensitive to very small changes in the electromagnetic field that surrounds every single one of us.
We pick up, and react to, the smaller energetic vibrations and charges around us in myriad ways, that are only know starting to be really studied and understood by Western science.
Why this is relevant to our discussion of personality disorders, is because human beings PICK UP THE BIO-ELECTRICAL 'CHARGE' ASSOCIATED WITH OTHER PEOPLE'S EMOTIONS, and that 'charge' can profoundly affect our own physiology, thought processes and feelings.
The impact of super-charged negative emotions
People with personality disorders tend to have powerful, and often powerfully-negative emotions. Their anger, to use one example, is 'super-charged', bio-electrically. Even if they aren't expressing it verbally or obviously - and many narcissists will refuse to honestly acknowledge that they're ever angry, upset, disappointed, or judgemental - their negative emotion is still radiating out of them, and is bio-electrically affecting you.
This is the physiological explanation of why being around passively-aggressive people, or suffering martyrs can make you feel so weak, depleted and inexplicably 'stressed'.
Now, guess which meridian is the first place that gets bio-electrically zapped and taken out? - You got it - spleen! Spleen metabolises all the external 'input' you receive from the outside, from food, to sounds to knowledge, to other people's feelings.
So your own negative emotions can take you out 'from the inside', physiologically, and disrupt the working of a number of your internal systems, and other people's negative emotions can take you out 'from the outside'.
Spleen is also the 'happy' energy in the body, so when you're feeling down or depressed, nine times out of ten, you can trace it back to spending too much time around negative people. Which bring us on neatly to our next subject.
7) Negative people. Human beings are not angels; even the best of us will occasionally have a melt-down and display some sort of bad character trait or negative emotion. Being around someone who very occasionally has a bad day is not fun, and it will still have some impact on you, but the energetic fall-out will be relatively small, especially if they apologise afterwards and try to make amends for their bad behaviour.
By contrast, a negative person routinely criticises, shames, guilts, yells-at, ignores or blames the people around them.
It doesn't take a genius to work out when someone is consistently acting in this way, it usually points to some major, underlying emotional disturbance. If the negative person is going through an incredibly traumatic time in some way, their behaviour can be understood, if not excused: remember that trauma is probably the single biggest thing that takes out your Spleen meridian, and depletes your ability to feel empathy and compassion for other people.
In turn, lack of empathy is the defining component of Cluster B personality disorders - which is where we hit the vicious circle: Energetically, people with personality disorders usually have very weak spleen energy (usually, as a result of some major trauma experienced in early childhood, or even, in a past life that wasn't 'fixed'.)
Their internal negativity reduces their ability to feel compassion still further, and they regularly project their 'negative vibes' on to others, weakening other people's ability to feel empathy, as described above.
Spend too much time being blamed, criticised, yelled-at, manipulated etc, and your own spleen energy will get taken out - and you'll also start to lose your ability to feel balanced, healthy compassion and empathy for others.
Either you'll have no compassion for anyone, including yourself, or you'll have excessive compassion for others, and very little for yourself, and your own needs.
Simple energy medicine techniques can help protect you from negative vibes, as I've written about here, in this post.
But the better strategy, long-term, is to minimise interaction with negative people, until and unless you've got your spleen energy strong again, your immune system is robust, and you can quickly mend any electrical disruptions you experience from hanging out with them.
Tomorrow, we'll finish the week off by recapping the key elements of the energy approach to overcoming personality disorders.
Continuing on from yesterday's post, let's see what else weakens the spleen meridian, making it much harder for people to 'feel'...
4) Electromagnetic smog - As I've written about elsewhere, the human body is one big, complicated network of electrical connections. Your body produces bioelectricity, and those bioelectric signals regulate a whole bunch of processes in your body, from healing, to hormones, to thought processes, to emotions, and a few other billion things besides.
The electromagnetic vibes coming off your laptop, i-Phone, microwave oven, fluorescent lightbulbs and fridge, to name but a few, are all sending an electric signal that can seriously disrupt the human body's own bioelectrical network, and cause some big physiological problems, especially regarding the immune system.
Now, guess which meridian is most involved in trying to process these outside stimuli? Spleen! You got it.
Personally, every time I spend more than a couple of hours online, I feel completely wiped-out emotionally, and like I have no time or space for anyone else in my head. I have to 'decompress' for at least a couple of hours to start thinking and functioning like a human being again.
If my kids, or anyone else, tries to talk to me, or require a caring response from me after I've been on a computer, I kind of blank them or react like an unfeeling zombie. It was only when I started pulling all the information together for these posts that I realized that my spleen meridian, ie, my energy of compassion, empathy and caring, is getting completely zapped by my PC.
If I spend too long online, I start acting like someone with a personality disorder, unable to connect to those around me and trapped in my own head. This was a huge 'Eureka!' moment for me, and I'm still chewing it over.
For now, let's put it like this: watching videos, spending time surfing, even staying plugged in to MP3 players and i-Phones - this all takes out spleen energy, in a very big way, and makes it that much harder for people to feel their own emotions, and to respond to others with compassion and empathy. Clearly, these activities should be minimised as much as possible.
5) Stress - The stress response, aka fight / flight or freeze, is mounted in the body by the Triple Warmer meridian (aka, the energetic home of the evil inclination. [I wrote a whole big article about Triple Warmer over on Emunaroma, including tips on how to get it to calm down. Click HERE to read it. ) The first place the Triple Warmer takes its energy from in the body is - spleen meridian! I'll explain more about this phenomenon, and particularly how it relates to tackling personality disorders, in a separate post.
In the next post: how negative emotions and negative people are seriously affecting your Spleen, and your ability to feel empathy and compassion.
In the last post, we started to set out the broad idea that reconnecting people to their emotions by strengthening their spleen meridian is a key energetic approach to tackling personality disorders.
So now, let's find out how you actually do that!
Let's remind ourselves of what takes Spleen energy out, and then most of the solutions will automatically fall into place without a lot more explanation.
To strengthen spleen, the first thing to do is avoid all the stuff that's weakening it. (NB: These are lonnnngggg explanations, so I'm splitting them into a number of different posts.)
1) Trauma - In the secular world, the prevailing theory is that personality disorders are caused by some sort of serious traumatic experience, or experiences, in early childhood. They're right - at least partially - but the trauma doesn't have to be mental and emotional. It could also be physical (ie, a difficult birth, or a serious illness), or spiritual (ie, connected to previous lives and experiences that haven't yet been 'fixed' at the soul level. The Holocaust is a prime example of a spiritual trauma still requiring rectification, on some level.).
What this means, practically, is that the best parents in the world could still end up with a personality disordered child, through no fault of their own. I'll come back to this topic in a separate post, but the traumatic somatic memory / PTSD has to be released, energetically, from the physical location in the body, and the 'traumatic' connection in the primitive brain also has to be rewired, energetically.
2) Junk Food - Fast food and junk food is saturated with chemicals and nerve-destroying poisons like MSG. The meridian responsible for metabolising food is - Spleen! When your spleen is labouring away, trying to dispose of all the nasty stuff contained in your bottle of cola, it gets over-worked, and weak. Healthy, easy-to-digest food gives Spleen a break, and frees up more energy to deal with things like processing negative emotions in a healthy way..
3) Chemicals and environmental pollutants - Soaps, shampoos, toothpaste, washing powder - they all contain chemicals that really can and do weaken human beings by overloading our systems with toxic materials that are surplus to requirement, and need to be processed and removed. A few meridians are involved in this process, especially kidney, liver and our old friend, spleen.
Again, it's a post for another time, but when liver meridian is overwhelmed, people start beating themselves up and fundamentally hating themselves (another key trait of personality disordered people, especially narcissists). When kidney meridian is weak, then fear is the order of the day - and one of the big reasons why people with Cluster B personality disorders always try to brazen things out is because deep down, they fear being exposed as anything less than 100% perfect and wonderful.
(Check out the JEMI Tool that let's you link specific meridians to specific negative emotions by clicking HERE.)
That fear is visceral, debilitating and cuts to the core of 'Cluster B' people. They will do anything they can to avoid it, including lying, indulging in infamous 'narcissistic rage' attacks (where they go on the attack, viciously, in order to preserve their own super-fragile sense of perfect self), projecting their problems on to you, playing the victim - and a few other things besides.
Being on the receiving end of these manipulations, lies and rage fits is incredibly unpleasant (to put it mildly). But the underlying issue is FEAR. Anything that takes the narcissist's fear down, energetically, will help. (I'll discuss this in more detail when we get to the discussion about the Triple Warmer meridian.)
But anything you can do to minimise your exposure to chemicals and environmental pollutants will boost your spleen, kidney and liver meridians. It's also worth mentioning here that conventional medications are also very potent, powerful, toxic chemicals, albeit with a therapeutic affect.
Asthma puffs, steroid creams for eczema, even the humble aspirin - they all weaken the spleen, dump a huge toxic load into your system, and weaken your energy and immune system.
Personality Disorders, including narcissistic personality disorder, are so prevalent today for a few main reasons:
Reason 1: People have become disconnected from God, and from their spiritual dimension
This is maybe obvious, but the less God is in the picture, the more mental illness prevails. To put things very simply (and you could literally write a whole book on each of these subjects, but I'm trying to stick to basic concepts in this post) - the human soul can only function at its full potential and capability when it's connected to God in a real, tangible, fundamental way.
In a very real sense, God is the guardian of conscience. When God, and notions of spiritual 'reward and punishment' are out of the picture, then personal gain and selfish interests become the prevailing concern for the vast majority of people.
So that's the first reason personality disorders are so prevalent today, including within the Jewish community.
Reason 2: Bad emotional health habits are 'the norm' in our modern society
The bible identifies the three things that make someone emotionally healthy. They are:
Empathy means that you can see the other person's point of view, and compassion means that you feel other people's pain - both of these are usually either severely impaired or completely lacking, in people with a Cluster 'B' personality disorder.
But these days, they're also very hard to find in modern society as a whole.
Instead of embracing and encouraging compassion and empathy, modern society - with its emphasis on 'being in control' and 'perfection' and 'keeping up appearances' is encouraging people to act in very emotionally-unhealthy ways.
Blame, criticism and competition are the name of the game - and it's very hard for healthy, balanced compassion, accountability or kindness to flourish in those circumstances.
So widespread bad emotional health habits are the second reason personality disorders are on the rise. (Again, there's a lot more to say about all these reasons, and this is just an overview. We’ll explore all the areas in more detail when we move on to discussing solutions.)
Reason 3: Spleen meridian, aka 'The energy of compassion' is very weak in many people today
Here’s where it gets a little weird, but stick with me, keep an open mind, and you'll hopefully learn some amazing things.
According to Traditional Chinese Medicine, the spleen meridian is the main 'energy of compassion' in the physical body. When the spleen meridian is weak or compromised in some way, PEOPLE DON'T HAVE THE ENERGETIC RAW MATERIAL THEY NEED IN ORDER TO FEEL COMPASSION OR EMPATHY.
In the holistic model, the body simply mirrors the emotions and the soul, and vice-versa. When people have little or no compassion and empathy, their spleen energy is very weak. When they have weak spleen energy, they'll normally have very little healthy compassion or empathy.
This can occur in one of two main ways: either they'll have no compassion for anyone, including themselves (which can develop into a full-blown personality disorder), or, they'll have plenty of compassion for everyone else, and none for themselves (these are often the people who suffer the most from people with personality disorders).
Here's what takes spleen energy out:
On the soul front, people's spiritual fortitude and belief in God are at rock-bottom levels (btw, believing in God is NOT the same as being 'religious', but that's a discussion for another time). When you don't have a strong, genuine connection to God, your mind, emotions and body are already operating at sub-optimal levels, energetically and spiritually.
On the emotional front, compassion and empathy are in such short supply in the modern world that having feelings, and certainly expressing them, is increasingly considered to be a sign of mental illness.
In place of compassion, accountability and kindnesses, we have selfishness, grandstanding, and superficial relationships, where people talk the talk about unconditional love, caring and acceptance, but increasingly can't walk the walk.
On the physical, energetic front, spleen meridian is being severely compromised in a whole bunch of ways. The huge increase in chemicals and preservatives being used in our food system (up to 17,000 and counting) all takes out spleen. Pesticides take out spleen. Radio frequencies and television signals take out spleen. Facebook and internet use take out spleen. Japanese nuclear reactors going into melt-down take out spleen.
Also, the amount of stress, negative emotions and negative people we all have to contend with on a daily basis is increasing, as belief in God diminishes. If you don't believe God's going to help you pay your bills, you get stressed. If you don't believe God has a miraculous way to solve your problems, you get despairing. If you don't believe God's got a plan for you and your life, you get incredibly lonely, cynical and even nihilistic, when trouble strikes. All this stuff takes out spleen, as does regular updates about all the terrible things going on in the world (aka 'the news').
And negative people…well, so many of the negative people in our lives have personality disorders, creating a vicious cycle where they create poisonous, negative, uncaring and critical atmospheres that continue to hurt them, and disrupt their own spleen energy, as much as it disturbs, hurts and disrupts the spleen energy of the people around them.
That last thing to mention here, is that World War II, in all of its terrible glory, was the single most traumatic event ever to occur to humanity collectively, and the Jewish people in particular.
That trauma affected everyone that lived through it in a deeply profound way, that I believe has still not properly been dealt with, including many members of the Jewish Community.
Even if your ancestors weren't personally caught up in the Shoah, the last 65 years have seen huge, and hugely-traumatic resettlement of whole communities to new countries, including Eretz Yisrael, as well as at least 6 wars in Israel alone.
But trauma doesn't always have to be so dramatic:
Sirens going off is traumatic. Rockets falling is traumatic. Small children losing their lives in bizarre circumstances is traumatic. Economic turmoil and debt is traumatic. Divorce is traumatic.
As we've learned, severe trauma can sound the death-knell for the spleen energy in the body, unless it's identified, and steps are taken to reverse the damage that's been done.
The good news is, there are things we can do to tackle all of the factors contributing to the huge rise in personality disorders, and that's going to be the focus of the next few posts.
As with all matters of emotional, mental or physical health, a true solution has to work across the three levels of body, mind and soul.
Usually, I like to start from the 'top' down, the top being the spiritual root of all the problems. But with personality disorders, I'm going to reverse the normal order I do things, and start from the bottom, up, with the body.
Because the body (together with a lot of prayer) is really what holds the key to unlocking the problem of personality disorders.
Why 'Talk Therapy' Doesn't Work for Cluster 'B' Personality Disorders
As clinicians are the first to admit, 'talk therapy' just doesn't cut the mustard, when it comes to dealing with Cluster 'B' personality disorders, as a key component of change is that the person has to recognise that they're actually doing something wrong, to begin with.
That basic ingredient is missing in Cluster 'B' people. For reasons to be looked at in more detail later on, self-preservation is the highest priority for people with narcissistic, borderline, or anti-social behaviour personality disorders.
That deeply-entrenched attitude of self-preservation means that they simply can't 'hear' that they've done anything wrong; they can't see their role in causing difficulties and issues for the people around them; they can't accept that their behaviour (even the most blatantly nasty examples of it) is anything other than justified, rational, proper and correct.
You have to really experience it to believe it, but a Cluster B person simply can't recognise that they 'do wrong', according to the most basic, objective definitions of wrong-doing. That means they can't own up to bad behaviour, apologise for it, or do the necessary work required to prevent it from happening again.
Their overwhelming focus on self-preservation simply won't let them.
In talk therapy settings, Cluster B people will either blatantly refuse to address their issues and problems, or blame them on someone, or something else. Their gift for justifying their bad behaviour borders on something almost supernatural, and again has to be experienced to really be believed.
So where does this leave us?
To put it simply, if we can't get in through the door to solve the issue of personality disorders, we have to come in through the window, and the window in question is to tackle the problem at the energetic level, in the body.
But first, we need to really understand what we're dealing with.
Spleen Meridian holds the key to tackling personality disorders
Energetically, the energy meridian that holds the key to tackling personality disorders is spleen. Here's why:
As I mentioned in the last post, Traditional Chinese Medicine, states that the spleen meridian is the main 'energy of compassion' in the physical body. When the spleen meridian is weak or compromised in some way, PEOPLE DON'T HAVE THE ENERGETIC RAW MATERIAL THEY NEED IN ORDER TO FEEL HEALTHY, BALANCED COMPASSION OR EMPATHY.
(As a point of interest, Rebbe Nachman also writes extensively about the Spleen being the home of sadness and depression, and about compassion, but that's definitely a post for another time. To sum up: everything Rabbenu writes fits in with the hypothesis I'm setting out for you in these posts.)
Physically, if you strengthen spleen AND help people to overcome their 'locked in' trauma (which I'll BH write about in a separate post), then you strengthen the person's ability to feel again, and particularly, to feel empathy and compassion for other people.
Reconnecting people to their feelings is at the heart of 'solving' personality disorders.