One of my correspondents asked me a really good question:
How can we actually forgive the people who have really hurt us, especially when we’re still suffering from the problems they’ve caused us?
It’s an excellent question for a number of reasons.
First, let’s just take a step back to say that there are many gurus and ‘spiritual guides’ out there who like to promote and encourage something that I call ‘superficial forgiveness’.
Superficial forgiveness is where the person who was hurt hasn’t really processed what occurred to them properly, and still has a lot of emotional unfinished business with the person who hurt them.
Yet, that person is ‘forced’ to ‘get over it’ as quickly as possible, because we live in a society that – at least superficially – is a very big believer in ‘forgive and forget’. It’s part of the overall cultural zombification process that tells us deeper emotions don’t matter, and that keeping up appearances and maintaining polite relations is the most important thing.
So what tends to happen is that when we get seriously or chronically hurt by someone, society encourages us to stuff down the very valid feelings we have of betrayal, anger, sadness and upset, and to move straight into ‘forgive and forget’ before we’re really ready to do that.
And when that happens, we end up in a very hard place where on the outside, we’re operating from that place of ‘superficial forgiveness’, but on the inside we still have a lot of anger and vengeful feelings that simply have never been recognized, and never been properly worked through and processed.
And this is one of the best short-cuts I know of to turning into an emotional zombie, and / or developing some severe mental health issues, and / or becoming chronically ill.
Another important point to make is that we can only forgive something that we've actually acknowledged. For as long as we're in denial about what was truly done, or how we truly felt about it, we can't actually forgive.
So, what’s the solution?
This is what I believe works so much better than ‘superficial forgiveness’.
STEP 1: Acknowledge the hurt that was done to you, and validate your feelings.
Your feelings are subjective. We aren’t talking about an objective judgement of what has really happened here, and you don’t need to worry about ‘proving’ your case against the other person.
What you need to focus on is:
This stage can’t be skipped, and it’s the foundation for being able to really forgive further down the line. Where the hurt was profound, or long-lasting, or the result of an enormous betrayal (as is often the case when we’re talking about the parent-child relationship) – this part of the process can take a very long time.
Like, years, sometimes.
Why does it take so long in these situations? Because usually what happens is that the children of emotionally immature / absent and / or abusive parents aren’t allowed to experience their own feelings in a genuine way.
That’s far too threatening for an emotionally-dysfunctional parent.
So instead, the child is encouraged to view every interaction, thought, and feeling through the parent’s emotional lens, and that’s usually calibrated to make the parent come out looking as good as possible, at the child’s expense.
It’s a subtle, but incredibly effective form of brainwashing that sadly is so, so common in today’s world. And it can take the child years and years to really rid themselves of seeing the world simply as an extension of their own parents, and then to really feel all the things that they were never allowed to feel.
Like hurt, betrayal, sadness, jealousy, fear, and rage at how unfair it all is etc etc.
So dafka, when those people’s true feelings start to defrost, there’s a lot of repressed ‘uck’ that has to work its way out of the system, and be properly processed, before they can look to really forgive.
Another very important factor which can slow the process of real forgiveness up is how much of a threat the person who hurt us still poses. That’s one of the main reasons why it’s so much easier to forgive someone once they’ve passed away, because your subconscious is no longer scared for you to let your guard down around them – they’re dead! They can’t hurt you any more.
But, when people are still in a position of power, or still in a position to harm you in some way, or you still have that fear inside of you that it’s dangerous to come off red-alert around them – you’ll find it much, much harder to forgive them 100%.
So, now we’ve spelled out how crucially important STEP 1: Validate your own feelings really is, we can move on to:
STEP 2: How to really forgive the people who hurt us.
People are built in such a way, that we need to be able to ‘get things off our chest’ in some way, before we can really let go of things. But, when we’re dealing with people who have seriously hurt us, that’s usually impossible.
These people usually lack self-awareness, empathy and compassion to a very large degree, so confronting them with what they did to you will usually only lead to them lashing out, and trying to close you down any way they can.
That’s not going to end well for either of you.
So then, how can you get ‘closure’ without actually speaking to them?
The answer is to sit somewhere quiet where you won’t be disturbed, and to imagine talking to them in your head. Say everything you need to say – repeatedly! Yell, curse, accuse – whatever you need to do to ‘get it off your chest’.
And then, give them the opportunity to respond – still in your head.
Usually, they will start to explain a little about what’s really going on with them, and you’ll start to get some stunning insights into the internal demons the other person is battling.
Again, that doesn’t excuse or justify their bad behavior, but it does explain more of it, and it will help you to understand more about the huge challenges that other person actually has, internally.
If the hurt was huge or chronic, you may well have to repeat this process of ‘talking to them in your head’ a few times over, every time some new emotion, or some new aspect, comes up again in your life, that you have to deal with.
The goal is to get closure, to have your say, and ultimately, to forgive, and I’ve found that visualizing the person in your head, and saying whatever you need to say to them, is the single best way of doing this.
Now, you’re ready for STEP 3: Bring it back to God.
I know that people who come from religious traditions that don’t believe in reincarnation will find what I’m about to say challenging, but everything that happens to us down here is arranged by God, and is connected to fixing us, and our souls, on some level.
We have no idea what we did in a previous life, but if we got sent back down here in 2018, the odds are very good that we were the abusive parent last time round, we were the fraudster and thief, we were the cheating spouse, we were the cold-hearted murderer.
And if we didn’t make amends to our victims during that lifetime, then the only way to pay down and rectify those sins where we hurt other people is to experience the same sort of suffering ourselves.
Does this excuse the people who hurt us?
But, fundamentally, they are just being used as the stick in God’s hand, to rectify some wrong that we ourselves committed in a previous lifetime.
Again, for as long as you haven’t worked through the previous steps of:
You simply won’t be able to get to Step 3, which is where you can really see and internalize and accept that God was behind it all.
And that’s another reason why ‘superficial forgiveness’ is so poisonous and damaging, spiritually, because until and unless we have really worked the hurt through, as described above, we simply won’t be able to internalize that it’s all from God, and all for our good, somehow.
There are no quick fixes with these things, there are no short-cuts.
The people who are telling you to ‘forgive and forget’ are usually dealing with their own massive, and massively suppressed, mental and emotional health issues.
True forgiveness usually takes a lot of time, it takes a lot of inner work, courage and effort, and it’s predicated on first truly understanding what was done to you, and how badly it hurt you. Only then can you move on to really forgiving the other person, and then bringing it all back to God.
But when you finally do reach that stage of forgiving them 100%, it’s the best feeling in the world.
Posting is going to be a little lighter here on spiritualselfhelp.org for a couple of weeks, for two main reasons:
1) I’ve got my hands full launching my latest book, The Secret Diary of a Jewish Housewife, which you can find out more about by clicking HERE.
2) I’m planning to start posting up some longer, properly researched posts here about how electricity is the missing link in human health and well-being, that will connect all the dots from the electrically-charged semi-conducting liquid crystal that is the human body, to the sun and its solar flares, and everything else in between.
God willing, I will start posting that stuff up in the next couple of weeks and let me tell you: it’s completely mind-blowing!
(I know I say that about a lot of the things I write, but hey, have I been wrong yet?)
So keep your eyes peeled for that, and in the meantime, there was a huge solar flare a few days’ ago that directly led to the massive storms currently ravaging the USA, and may also be causing you some weird, excessive sunburn, even if it doesn’t feel so hot at the moment.
I’ll explain all this in more detail over the coming weeks, God willing, but in the meantime - slap on the sunscreen and don’t be surprised if you find your mood very odd and changeable for no obvious reason at the moment.
The weather really does affect us much more than we think it does, and I hope to start sharing with you very soon exactly HOW that’s happening, and what it means for our health and well-being.
We're covering a lot of ground pretty fast with these posts, so I decided to 'sum up' most of what we've learnt so far about C-PTSD before we continue discussing how you can know if you're affected, and most importantly of all, what to do about it all!
Even just having the knowledge that you're not 'crazy' or 'bad', and actually are just very traumatised by your life experiences makes an enormous difference to the way you start to relate to yourself and your 'issues'.
The key here is to crank the self-compassion to the max, because self-compassion is really the key to starting to heal from C-PTSD. Try to see yourself through God's eyes, and know that the 'real' you is actually only good and kind, and really wants to build the world anyway it can.
Once you start to get a handle on how your C-PTSD is preventing you from accessing and expressing the 'real' you, you just came a huge step closer to getting out of C-PTSD prison...
the one minute definition of c-ptsd:
C-PTSD is a severe form of PTSD that is characterised by the following five things:
• Emotional flashbacks
• Toxic shame
• Vicious ‘inner critic’
• Social anxiety
In contrast with ‘regular’ PTSD, the flashbacks most sufferers of C-PTSD are NOT visual, but are usually a regression to an overwhelming state of mind or feeling state from childhood.
See HERE for a post on how to tame the 'inner critic'.
The most common types of emotional flashback in C-PTSD are overwhelming feelings of:
Emotional flashbacks occur on gradient. Some can literally paralyse the C-PTSD person on the spot, while others will be experienced as a more ‘low grade’ sense of being lost, worthless, anxious, or ‘down’.
FLASHBACKS AND FIGHT-OR-FLIGHT
Emotional flashbacks usually trigger the fight-flight-freeze-fawn stress response, causing a person to snap instantly into ‘danger’ mode, where their either experience hyper-arousal of the sympathetic nervous system (SNS) - (fight of flight) or in more ‘overwhelming’ cases, move straight to the exaggerated parasympathetic response of FREEZE.
(Fawn fits somewhere between the two, with the ‘fawning’ of a flattery-prone personality attempting to forestall danger by appeasing it, in any way possible.)
See HERE for more about fight-or-flight, and to start figuring out which 'reaction' you tend to most have to stress.
FEAR FLASHBACKS CAN LEAVE YOU FEELING:
DESPAIR FLASHBACKS CAN LEAVE YOU FEELING:
• Don’t exist
TOXIC SHAME FLASHBACKS CAN LEAVE YOU FEELING:
• Can’t do anything right
‘ALONE’ FLASHBACKS CAN LEAVE YOU FEELING:
While there is often a ‘primary’ feeling underlying an emotional flashback, each flashback usually contains a mixture of shame, fear, depression and ‘aloneness’.
See HERE - for how to stop emotional flashbacks in their tracks.
In the last couple of posts we’ve been setting out the stall a little, explaining how:
So now, we’re up to the third part of this series, where I’m actually going to start laying things on the line for you, biologically, so you can see that what we’ve covered so far is clearly being demonstrated in how the human brain and mind works (or doesn’t work…) leading to our modern epidemic of mental illnesses of just about about every stripe.
Let’s begin with my trusty ‘three part brain’ infographic, which I’ve modified a little for the purposes of this post. What this infographic is showing is that the brain is made up of three different main parts, often referred to as:
The infographic also briefly describes the main functions that each of these three parts of the human brain are responsible for.
You can sum it up like this:
REPTILIAN / PRIMITIVE BRAIN (aka, ‘snake’ brain…) - is the home of everything to do with day-to-day physical survival, the fight/flight/freeze response, plus our most base impulses and desires, like food, procreation, sleep and self-preservation (i.e. ‘ME FIRST’).
ME FIRST is the founding principle of Darwin’s completely selfish, aggressive and destructive ‘survival of the fittest’, just he made it sound a whole lot more virtuous than it actually is.
MAMMALIAN / EMOTIONAL BRAIN (aka, ‘monkey’ brain) - is where our experiences are categorized and sorted into ‘good or bad’, leading to conditioned responses like Pavlov’s dog, where Pavlov famously trained his dog to salivate by pairing a ringing bell with lunch-time.
To put this another way, the emotional brain is responsible for reading cues in our environment, and shaping our behavior in response to those cues. Once Pavlov’s dog associated the bell being run with supper, you couldn’t talk it out of that association. Only a different experience would ‘overwrite’ the initial experience with the bell, and eventually prevent the conditioned reaction to subside.
With me so far?
This level of human reaction / feeling / thinking is where the Darwin-lovers would like us to stop. Remember, they’re telling us we’re just evolved apes, with a lot more brain power? So according to the pro-evolution crowd, all that mental capacity stored in our frontal lobes is just meant to help us solve maths equations better, and build bigger skyscrapers.
The evolutionists want you to believe that the ‘human’ brain that we’re about to discuss is primarily about helping you get a first in University and to get a nice job. When the human brain is effectively being controlled by monkey brain and snake brain, then it turns the human being into a clever, or rather cunning, animal.
But when the human brain is controlling the monkey brain and snake brain, then things are very, very different, as we’re about to discover.
HUMAN / COGNITIVE / RATIONAL BRAIN - This is the home of all our uniquely ‘human’ abilities, like communicating with others, feeling empathy for other people’s pain, the ability to act altruistically and generously, even when it seems that putting someone else’s needs is not in our best interest, and the ability to think about intangible things like God, the spiritual world, and the deeper reasons for why we’re alive in the first place.
I know I’m harping on this point a lot, but it can be stated enough times that the theory of evolution cuts people off from their very humanity, and emphasizes again and again that they are ANIMALS, not ANGELS.
When someone is being repeatedly brainwashed that the only way they got here in the first place is because their ancestors excelled in the selfish, aggressive, competitive game called ‘ME FIRST’, they are being given the unmistakable message that this sort of ‘reptilian’ behavior is not only acceptable, it’s a mandatory part of staying alive.
We’re going to go into this even more in the next post, but ‘ME FIRST’ is the main message of our primitive snake-brains. When people keep listening to their snake brains instead of empowering their human brain, they will indulge in the most ‘ill’ behavior imaginable.
I could go on… (and I will in the next post).
But as these are big ideas, let’s stop there for now. In the next post, we’ll move on to examining some of the scientific research being done to show how connecting to God via prayer and meditation can empower the human brain over snake brain, and help people to act much more like the quasi-angels God actually designed us to be.
So now that you know that the Theory of Evolution is completely unproven, and never WILL be proven, and is arguably one of the biggest frauds ever perpetuated by the atheistically-inclined members of the scientific community, it’s time to take a look at the sort of damage this crazy theory has done to mankind, and particularly, to our mental health.
To sum it up as simply as possible, the Creationist view of life is that we’re here because God made us, and He made us for a specific purpose and reason (namely, to work on fixing our character and negative traits), and that everything that happens to us is meaningful, and for our ultimate spiritual good. This view encourages people to put God in the picture, to find meaning in their suffering, and to work on developing their altruistic spiritual self, as opposed to their purely materialistic ‘animal’ self.
By contrast, the ‘Darwinist’ view of life is that everything is random and happenstance, nothing is meaningful, planned or created, only ‘winners’ survive, and that it’s perfectly OK to act like the vicious evolved animal you really are, and to throw all thoughts of kindness, selflessness, generosity and empathy to the wind.
To sum up the contrast, on the one hand God is telling you that you’re almost an angel, and you need to behave like one, while Darwin is telling you that you’re effectively an animal, and you need to behave like one.
And boy o boy, has modern society been falling over itself to prove Darwin ‘right’. You only need to spend five seconds listening to the news, or one second surfing the internet, to see how more and more people are plain acting like the cruel, competitive, immoral, purely materialistic ‘animals’ that Darwin (and people like Richard Dawkins) have spent a lot of time convincing people they really are.
In the meantime, here’s a few quotes that you might want to consider in relation to how Godless-ness is creating more and more human misery and mental illness, including personality disorders like narcissism:
This post is just setting out the basic ideas of HOW Darwinism has empowered the worst excesses of human nature, leading to an explosion in mentally-ill ‘animalistic’ behaviors that are still being lauded as praiseworthy in a culture that has made ‘survival of the fittest’ its credo and religion.
In the next post, we’ll start to break things down into practical elements and points, to see how believing you’re an animal, and increasingly acting like one, empowers what’s known as the ‘primitive’ parts of the brain, and those parts of the brain involved in the gratification of desires and self-preservation, while effectively cutting you off from the frontal lobes that give us our uniquely ‘human’, quasi-angelic spiritual capabilities.
To be continued…
This week, I’m taking my tent and heading over to Even Sappir, in the Jerusalem suburbs, to participate in Israel’s first ever English speaking Wholistic Health Forum.
The Forum is running the whole week, and I’m planning to be there for most of it, as it sounds like an amazing opportunity to meet other Jewish holistic health professionals, learn about more of the up-and-coming techniques and approaches out there, and even (whisper it) enjoy myself, a little.
Hey, as soon as I don’t have to cook or hang washing, I’m already in a pretty good mood…
If you’re based in Israel and you’d like to come too, you can buy tickets online or on the door, by clicking HERE.
If you’d like to see the full program of speakers and events, take a look at the impressive line-up HERE.
And the last thing to tell you is that I’m speaking at the Forum myself, on Tuesday, May 17th, at 2.30 pm in the Marquee, on the topic of ‘Why the Jews Were Right About Holistic Health’.
So if you’re around, come say hello!
Q: How did you come to start Torahpractic Medicine? What inspired you, how long has it been going, and what was your aim in beginning it?
When I was twelve, I was granted a vision of my life's purpose: to heal and to teach healing. And although there were many details as to how to conduct both the healing and the teaching, at the age of twelve all that I had been exposed to was western medicine. So I read medical texts, worked in a research lab and as a nursing assistant, and even enrolled in a pre-med program. However, the more I studied and experienced, the more I realized that conventional medicine was missing something essential.
Then, at the age of nineteen, while in the hiking in the mountains, I was granted another vision. This sent me on a search for my spiritual roots, and eventually led me to a Chabad Lubavitch rabbinical seminary. There I began my study of Chabad Chassidus and immediately recognized that it contains a vast literature of spiritual healing—in fact, a rigorous and detailed system of traditional Jewish medicine.
Over the last forty-five years, I have been researching, teaching and practicing that system—which we now call the Five Gates of Torahpractic Medicine.
Q: Can you sum up the Torahpractic healing approach succinctly in a couple of sentences?
Q: Describe some of your biggest successes or milestones with Torahpractic.
All of our healing successes result from the patient's recognition and acceptance that it is his or her behavior in relation to the Divine that is causing a spiritual disorder manifesting as physical, emotional or mental illness. From that point on, “passive sufferers” become active, purpose-guided individuals, and even the supposedly incurable can be resolved in ways that conventional and even most alternative medical systems consider impossible or miraculous. Such cases have included psoriasis, advanced stage cancer, chronic Lyme disease, autoimmune disorders, and obsessive compulsive disorder, rachmanah litzlan (God should have mercy on us).
In terms of the development of Torahpractic, every day brings new insights into the over 5,000 year Jewish traditional approach to healing. Our greatest successes typically involve bringing those insights to the public—both to those seeking healing and healing practitioners—in ways that make them accessible and relevant.
Q: What have been your biggest challenges and / or obstacles? How have you overcome them?
The first is patients who say “Heal me but don't make me religious.”
The second is the widespread belief that our Torah-based tradition has nothing to offer with regard to spirituality and health.
As for overcoming those challenges: as Rabbi Akiva teaches, it is a matter of water dripping on a stone—over time, even the hardest rock yields. Patient by patient, lecture by lecture, we bring the message that it is not about being “religious,” but rather about connecting with the Divine, and that traditional Jewish medicine, or Torahpractic, is the most comprehensive and rigorous medical system for achieving true healing.
Q: How many people have trained as Torahpractic healers / spiritual doctors? Can you describe the ‘typical’ characteristics of a successful Torahpractic practitioner?
So far, approximately twenty people have completed the training to become a Torahpractic healing mentor. The only characteristic that distinguishes those who find success as a Torahpractic practitioner is an overwhelming desire and commitment to using a Torah-based approach to healing others.
Q: If someone one wants to learn Torahpractic, do they need prior training or experience? If yes, please describe what sort of things you require, and why.
Some familiarity with human anatomy/physiology, or experience as a healthcare practitioner—whether conventional or alternative, is helpful but not necessary. Our students have included a naturopath, life coach, reflexologist, as well as an artist and a retired fireman. We strive to create a supportive environment and forge an ongoing relationship with our students to help them fulfill not only their academic, but also their highest human, potential.
Q: What sort of illnesses or health issues have you found respond the best to the Torahpractic approach?
Torahpractic is applicable to all types of health issues. However, patients who suffer from chronic physical, emotional and mental health issues are often more open to the cognitive and behavioral changes required to truly heal.
Q: Are there are any health issues that you feel are NOT suitable for the Torahpractic approach? Why?
Every ailment is a communication from the Divine. Torahpractic diagnosis helps individuals decipher and understand that communication. Torahpractic treatment enables individuals to act upon that understanding. Even a stubbed toe or a 24-hour flu can be of significance. It all depends upon the individual's commitment to their attaining their highest human potential and achieving their life's purpose.
Q: Is Torahpractic only for Jews, or could it also be applied to other people too?Torah is universal. And yet it draws a distinction between Jews and non-Jews with regard to their relationship with, and obligations to, the Divine. Torahpractic, being wholly Torah-based, is likewise universal, applicable to both Jews and non-Jews. Yet there are distinctions in diagnosing and treating each. That notwithstanding, one of our most active and successful Torahpractic practitioners is a Bnei Noach (a non-Jew committed to fulfilling the 7 Noahide laws).
Q: Can you tell us a bit about the Encyclopedia of Jewish Healing – how does it differ from Torahpractic, and what are its main aims or goals?
Our primary goal is to make the Encyclopedia the most comprehensive, authoritative, accessible, and relevant compendium of traditional Jewish, or Torahpractic, healing wisdom and practice in over two millennia.
We envision it as a tool for both those seeking authentic healing and healing practitioners.
Q: How can people find out more about your healing approach? How can they get more involved?
To learn more about Torahpractic medicine, visit the Encyclopedia of Jewish Healing at: www.encyclopediajewishhealing.org.
To become more involved, send us a message via the Contact form on the Encyclopedia.
Q: If there’s one key message you want readers to take away from this interview, what would it be?Each of us has the very real potential to achieve total wellbeing—purposefully lived. The Five Gates of Torahpractic Medicine is the most comprehensive and rigorous approach to realizing that potential.
Thanks for the interview, Rabbi DuBrow!
To learn more about Torahpractic medicine, visit the Encyclopedia of Jewish Healing at: www.encyclopediajewishhealing.org.
In a time when 'Jewish' and 'Doctor' seem to go together like strawberries 'n cream, you could be forgiven for thinking that Western-based medicine is a Jewish invention. Crack open any list of alumni for pretty much any Med school, and a whole bunch of 'Cohens' and 'Weissbergs' and 'Steinmans' will leap out at you.
But what's so ironic is that the authentic Jewish view of health and wellbeing couldn't be further from the current Western medical model, which believes and teaches that the body's health depends purely on biological and chemical factors.
In the West, most leading medical thinkers, researchers and practitioners have increasingly reduced human health to one big chemical equation. How the patient actually lives, eats, and acts before they get sick is barely examined, and often completely ignored.
But the authentic Jewish view of health has always made physical health a function of a person's character traits (ie, their emotions and their behaviour), and their soul...
Continue reading over at onjewishmatters.com
OK, so now that we're grudgingly starting to accept that repressing, suppressing and drugging away our emotions could make us (and our children) spiritually, emotionally and physically ill.
Great! So what, exactly, are we supposed to do about it all? I mean, if it was so easy to deal with our negative emotions in the first place, no-one would go to all the bother of trying to make them go away.
In the secular world, this is where I'd be pushing you down the therapy route, where you spend the next 20 years of your life talking it all out with someone you're paying a fortune to, just to listen to you.
Thank G-d, we're not in the secular world! There is one way, and one way only, to heal the soul, and that's to get G-d involved in the process. Over the course of many years of praying, teaching and trying to heal myself and others, G-d's helped me to understand that healing the soul can be broken down into three main areas:
NESHAMA healing: Happens when we strengthen our tangible connection to G-d. We do this by talking to Him every single day, for at least five minutes; and working on our emuna that G-d is running the world, all of it, even the bit called our life (This is Rav Arush's first rule of emuna). That emuna is what gives our neshamas the strength they need to start to impose some spiritual order on the ruach and the nefesh.
RUACH healing: Happens when we work on improving our spiritual health, and in particular on developing healthy compassion, accountability and appropriate kindness. How do we do this? We talk to God about it! We also work to develop the belief that G-d is doing everything, even the things we don't like, for our own good. (That's Rav Arush's second rule of emuna.)
NEFESH healing: Happens when we work on improving our emotional health. I don't repress my feelings, and I also don't give myself licence to act out and hurt others. If I get angry, for example, I'll admit it to myself and I'll take it back to G-d and I ask Him to help me deal with it. If I lash out at someone else when I'm angry, I'll also take responsibility for my behaviour, apologise to them, and ask G-d to help me work on it better.
At the same time that I'm praying for G-d to help me stop feeling so angry, I'm also doing my own detective work to find out WHAT is making me so angry in the first place, and what might need to change in my outlook, circumstances or relationships to prevent it from re-occurring. (This is Rav Arush's third rule of emuna, namely that G-d is always sending us messages to change, grow or improve in some way.)
Here's the magic touch: working with our energy meridians and acupressure points can also help us to unblock this stuff from the NEFESH up. For example, sedating gallbladder meridian can unblock and dissipate repressed or over-whelming feelings of anger, making it much easier for the person to work through their anger, and reconnect at all levels.
You can sum it up like this:
More G-d = stronger neshama = healthier emotions (ruach) = nefesh (body) more under control.
In the last post in this series, I'll share a quick diagnostic quiz tool, to help you see which part of your soul might need some work.