The following list of questions comes from Mark Wolynn's site, HERE.
Take a look down the list, and if you start to realise that you're answering 'yes' to quite a few questions (or even just a few 'biggies...) then explore the option that you may well have some inherited trauma to work through and deal with.
If that's the case, I highly recommend you pick up a copy of Wolynn's book: It didn't start with you, and work through his exercises.
If you want to find the answers to what may be slowing you down or holding you back in life, God will certainly show them to you if you even just take the tiniest step towards finding the truth.
Below are some family history questions to consider before we work together. You don’t need to write anything down or send anything in advance. You may need to do a little research, however, by asking your parents or other family members. Don’t worry if there are answers you can’t get. What you already know will be enough.
- Who died early?
- Who left?
- Who was abandoned, isolated, or excluded from the family?
- Who was adopted or who gave a child up for adoption?
- Who died in childbirth?
- Who had a stillbirth, miscarriage, or abortion?
- Who committed suicide?
- Who committed a serious crime?
- Who experienced a significant trauma or suffered a catastrophic event?
- Who lost their home or possessions and had difficulty recovering?
- Who suffered in war?
- Who died in or participated in the Holocaust or some other genocide?
- Who was murdered?
- Who murdered someone or felt responsible for someone’s death or misfortune?
- Who hurt, cheated, or took advantage of someone?
- Who profited from another’s loss?
- Who was wrongly accused?
- Who was jailed or institutionalized?
- Who had a physical, emotional, or mental disability?
- Which parent or grandparent had a significant relationship prior to getting married, and what happened?
- Was someone deeply hurt by another?
- Did anyone, including you, experience a week or more away from mother at an early age?
- Did your parents go on a vacation when you were young?
- Were you sent away to visit relatives or grandparents?
- Were you or your mother ever hospitalized and forced to be apart from one another?
- Did something traumatic happen while your mother was pregnant with you?
- Did you experience a difficult birth?
- Were you born premature?
- Were you adopted or separated from the mother shortly after birth?
- Did you experience a trauma or a separation from your mother during the first three years of life?
- Did your mother experience a trauma or emotional turmoil during your first three years of life?